I think the good Bishop gets caught up too much (as we all can) between the theological theory and the practical effects. In "theory" one can go to a N.O. mass and get some good out of it. But in practice, even if you were going to the most "conservative N.O." mass available, there's problems associated with it - like, communion in the hand, immodest dress of others in attendance, irreverent activities of the congregation, mistakes in the rubrics, etc.
The point is, in theory the N.O. could be valid, but in practice, is that all that matters? Of course not! One has to take in all the circuмstances surrounding the Mass, AND all the effects that your attendance would cause. If you don't separate these 2 ideas, then you sound like a highly confused individual.
That's why, in my opinion, in the face of all the doubts, problems, and circuмstances surrounding the N.O. mass, the answer should simply be: STAY AWAY. No ifs, ands, or buts. Some have tried for the last 40 years to fit the square peg in the round hole, but it's not going to happen. The N.O. mass isn't Catholic. Let's quit trying to find a way to make it so.
Let me provide an example of what +W is trying to do with his words here.
St. Charles Borromeo Catholic Church in North Hollywood, CA, is the retirement abode of Roger Cardinal Mahony. Just before he moved in, permanently, there was an extensive renovation that did some obvious improvements, kept the overall architectural theme intact, added some new features and REMOVED THE COMMUNION RAIL. (That railing in marble, exotic hardwood and wrought iron would cost about $50,000 to re-install.)
I could go on for pages about the details.
However, my point in all this is, that I met my brother-in-law quite by accident at a restaurant the other day and we had a nice chat, during which I invited him to come to Mass at our weekly-rented venue in Northridge, about 5 blocks from his current place of residence. He assured me that he is "a fallen-away Catholic," and the only place he ever goes to church anymore is St. Charles Borromeo, N.H., because it's Bob Hope's parish and he loves the whole scene there because it's so beautiful; he just loves that church. (Even if it's about 8 miles away from his residence!)
The point is, my brother-in-law probably wouldn't be able to tell the difference between a Novus Ordo liturgy at St. Charles and a Traditional Latin Mass at some other venue, except perhaps all the Latin, but he probably wouldn't be paying much attention to the words spoken anyway. He'd be rubber-necking all over the place, staring at the interior appointments and decorator details, and probably at any females within eyesight.
Now, if I were to forbid or prevent him from going to St. Charles in some way, would I be doing him any good for his faith? Or, if I were to encourage him to show up at St. Charles from time to time, would that rather help his faith more than the former idea?
Bishop Williamson is a pastor of souls, as best he can (without any ordinary jurisdiction), and as such when he says some things he has in mind not only people like YOU and ME, but people like my brother-in-law.
Do you see what I mean?
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