I've never dismissed someone's suffering as nothing.
Your saying going through the horrors of what the infantry soldiers did in Vietnam would be easier to deal with is ludicrous.
No, what is ludicrous is attempting to weigh which suffering is greater.
"This person was only waterboarded. Being scourged is MUCH worse."
"Being drowned is MUCH less painful than being burned at the stake."
"Having your fingernails pulled out is WAY worse than having your teeth pulled out."
etc.
I think it's silly because I'm sure each of those sufferings is horrible in its own way. Human beings are capable of suffering in a near-infinite variety of ways.
And it's not like you're exactly a Vietnam vet yourself. You don't think a highly thoughtful, intelligent thirty-something man can attain as good a grasp of the horrors of war as you have? You're an American single mom in your thirties! What personal experience of war can
you lay claim to!?
THAT is what I find hilarious.