In my long experience, I have observed some simple signs, outward signs, indicators that something is wrong with a Catholic. Keep in mind that all Catholics were traditional Catholics in the early 1960’s, there was only the Latin Mass in every detail and 90% of them left the Church. My simple observation has been confirmed over and over again. I will explain it:
There are three types of people that go to mass. Those that are going up (increasing in the faith), those that are going down (losing the faith), and those that are in between, stagnant (no longer going up and not yet falling). The danger to Catholics comes, obviously, from the bad example of the ones going down, however, the ones that are stagnant are also a danger, for they are not good examples.
St. Francis said that as Christ is the Light, as we come closer to Him, it is as if we bring a light closer and closer to us. When we look at ourselves in the mirror, the less light we have, the less imperfections we see, the more perfect we think we are. As we add (receive) more light, we begin to see more and more of our imperfections, wrinkles, scars, pimples, blackheads, pores. In the darkness, we are blind as to what we really are, and as we progress in the faith we slowly see more clearly. When St. Francis died, he was convinced that he deserved Hell, and entrusted himself to God’s Mercy. He knew that he was not yet clean. ST. FRANCIS OF ASSISI! Therefore, we all have to seek perfection before God and not just compare ourselves to those in the world around us.
To cut to the chase, (keep in mind that I am NOT here talking about new female parishioners that just came in from the world):
My simple gage that something is wrong is when I see a mother or her daughters coming to mass dressed immodestly (dresses above the knee, pencil skirts, tight form fitting clothing, in short, provocative attire to attract men). In my experience, if they come to mass dressed immodestly, then during the week, they dress just like any female of the world (short shorts, tight jeans, midriff exposed, bikinis…). Unfortunately, it never fails, it is a sign that they playing games with God, and on the inclined plain to eventually not coming to mass and all that follows.
On the other side, are the females that are new, that come immodestly dressed. If they are sincere in their search for truth, their attire will change, sometimes very quickly.
That’s it. It is a simple as that. Catholics have to be an example to the world 24/7, everywhere they go, and especially today, when there are no female examples of Catholics to be found, women are obligated to be dressed like Catholics 24/7. Today, when even Catholic priests and nuns (Novus Ordo) wear street clothes outside of their work!
Parents especially need to be on the alert for these signs in their children and nip it at the bud. For that, parents need to be prepared to explain to their daughters the why's of why a Catholic cannot dress provocatively, and not just reprimand them. The children need to believe in what they are doing, not just be obligated because Mom or Dad said so.