Sad, but I've discovered people ignore printed requests to respect dress codes. Since I've never been to a wedding that the couple stayed together I simply don't go to weddings any longer. Ditto for most non mandatory church, family, and social events. It's impossible for me as a single, senior woman to exert any positive influence, so I stay home.
Politics and proper nouns aside miss/ma'am but even, and perhaps especially, the silent examples of many have aided me much though not quite always as they should have, or to the degree.
Also, a short tale;
There once was a stonecutter meticulously flattening the very top of a steeple, right where the crucifix rests.
Another, seeing this, said to him, "Why do you waste so much time and effort on something that will only be limed, and none will see?"
The cutter replied, "God sees."