The World is big on this point, that one should have wide and varied sɛҳuąƖ experiences. "If you're not happy, you need to leave him and find someone new."
Ultimately, THE test in our life ... which will determine whether we end up in heaven or hell for all eternity ultimately boils down to this:
Are we primarily concerned about pleasing ourselves or about pleasing God (and others for His sake)? It's that simple ... in the final analysis.
Now, most of us have some of both in us ... which is where Purgatory comes in. Now, the great saints have gone through the different dark nights where this pursuit of self dies completely. Rest of us will have to get this accomplished in Purgatory (if God grants us the grace to be saved).