The question i have is do you think if my only option is sspx or stay home, would you recommend stay home?
I would not attend anywhere that is compromised. The Neo-SSPX is compromised, and I would not attend their services. Instead, I would do as the great people did during the time of the Vendée, as St. John Vianney and his family did.
The Vianney family preferred to travel many miles to attend Mass offered by a non-juror priest, rather than compromise their faith by attending a schismatic Mass. If that wasn't possible, they would stay at home and glorify the Lord's Day in other ways, remaining steadfast in their devotion.
The 2012 Doctrinal Declaration was a far graver and worse offense than the oath the priests signed back then.