John Grace, the desire for military schools and arranged marriages has absolutely nothing to do with Catholic teachings, and has everything to do with power and control, and instilling a cult of obedience.
This sort of thing becomes sacrilegious when priests get involved. Priests are not supposed to engage in combat, (yet they want to militarize the boys schools?) and they aren't supposed to being involved in arranging who marries who. (that in particular is very characteristic of cults) This emphasis on control - backed up by the threat of ostracism and of being branded as mentally ill, is not Catholic, it's characteristic of a cult.