I'm sorry to see that you won't be posting anymore. But it may be better to stay away from this Den of Vipers.
The owner of the forum is a good man, and he has a good wife. They can't help, for the most part, that most trads are a nasty bunch. That's just how it is.
God bless you.
To say "most trads are a nasty bunch" is a sweeping generalization and seems uncalled for in this situation. It is pretty understandable for people to object to getting lectured about netiquette by a newbie; it does not make them nasty.
I suggest that we pray for Fanny and not make any judgments about "most trads". Perhaps you could consider, Meg, whether your response is a sign of battle fatigue. You have been involved in angry arguments lately and that may be colouring your perception of trads.