Seriously, please meditate on this one:
You have some altercation between, say, Mr. Hat and Mr. Coy. The conflict started when Mr. Hat ran over Mr. Coy's dog. So it was originally about restitution and apologizing for killing a neighbor's dog.
But then Mr. Coy tilled up Mr. Hat's entire garden.
Then Mr. Hat "girdled" 6 of Mr. Coy's trees (girdling = cutting a ring 1/4 inch deep all the way around the base of a tree will totally kill the tree)
Then Mr. Coy set Mr. Hat's front yard on fire, during the dry season.
Later, Mr. Hat set Mr. Coy's garage on fire, trying to make it look like an accident.
A week later, Mr. Coy set Mr. Hat's garage on fire, which caught his house on fire. It burned to the ground.
Mr. Hat had to move to a different area, but the hatred seethed. 20 years later, his children were trained to hate Mr. Coy and his family.
Mr. Hat's oldest son, Cowboy, eventually hit Mrs. Coy with his truck -- there were no skid marks before the collision. Witnesses said the truck actually SPED UP before the collision.
And so it continued for years.
Now let's pause the action for a moment. If you asked Mr. Coy how to resolve this conflict, he'd say, "When all the Hats are dead!" Why? "They're devils, that's why! I can't learn to live next to the devil! That's ridiculous."
What about restitution for the dog? Does Mr. Coy even remember the dog that Mr. Hat ran over originally? Probably not. The conflict has seethed, grown, escalated, and a habit of fighting has nurtured anger -- and constant anger has morphed into hatred (as it always does).
It's hard to maintain CHARITY and RIGHTEOUS INDIGNATION for decades, without either A) giving up on the indignation or B) letting the indignation breed HATRED of the men in the Vatican we oppose.