Not exactly sure what to do....  I want HIM to make the decision, resign and be great full for the years he was able to serve or serve whole heartedly and with enthusiasm.  Instead, it seems to be the same “I’m on the schedule AGAIN?” type of attitude. He is not on the schedule every Sunday, usually once or twice a month. Any thoughts....?

My Catholic education consisted of being baptized as a baby, Sunday school for 1st communion for like 3 months of Saturdays, and same for Confirmation, after that I never went back to church till I was 40. In other words, zero education and I knew nothing. My Mother went to the Novus Ordo mass every Sunday, belonged to the Legion of Mary and did all kinds of things at the church, but she didn't live the faith. My Father just went with her. If I said we had a one wall castle I think I'd be exaggerating. My only younger sister was allowed to go out with anyone, luckily she looked like she was 12 years old till she turned like 21. Since she was 18, she was allowed to go to night clubs till 4am and such. They did send her to the Novus Ordo Catholic school, which looking back now, made things worse, for she learned a false Catholic religion. She thinks she knows the Catholic Faith, but she knows nothing. She has absolutely no fear of God (the ONLY thing I learned at Sunday school). She is the sweetest  person in the world, would not betray anyone or hurt a fly. She is smart, very sociable, and noble, but she is Catholic in name only. That is what the Novus Ordo and nominal Catholicism in the house did to her. Now, fortunately for her, she has my family, her nieces and nephews as a real life example. Who knows how she will end. We are all praying for her. A lot of digression in that story, but the bottom line is that the great sinner who learned nothing about the faith but fear of God is now the trad catholic father advising other people. While the girl that went to Catholic school is now as it appears, hopelessly lost.

There's your anecdote, and below is another! It all has to do with your son, believe it or not.

I was a baseball player through the Little, Pony, Senior leagues and High School. I could have played in college, but I realized I was not going further, so I went to school to learn business. My father was an even better baseball player than I  when he was young, he never once pushed me to play baseball. I do the same, however, with my children I also put things in front of them, I expose them to studies, sports, activities, arts, sciences, carpentry, plumbing, mechanics, engineering  etc., to everything I can think of, and I let them go according to their natural abilities and inclinations. Then I help those inclinations along, at least I do not hinder them (unless they are not good for the soul, like anything involving Hollywood) . My son on his own took a liking to serving mass when he was so little that he needed a bench to set up the altar. I drove him to church every weekday that he served and went to mass. In the case of your son, if he does not have the inclination, do not force it on him. Not serving mass is not on my list of weak fortifications. However, why he does not want to serve and what he does with his time now, can make my list. If your only complaint is that he does not want to serve anymore, then you are miles ahead of everyone else.

Is he smoking cigarettes, drinking alcohol, hanging out with unshaven friends, not working around the house...…. (all signs that something bad is going on). Like you said before, it is complicated, however, only complicated because I can't see your family over the internet, very easy for me if I was there like you are.

I dont have children and Im a woman. 

I believe sending children to school (catholic NO or public) is exposing them to a lot of danger.

Specially in teen years because of peer pressure. If other girls go out unsupervised with boys you daughter will want to do the same and she will fear to being seen as an alien or being bullied.

Peer pressure, bad NO nuns and priests, watching TV,  can make a lot of damage.

Staying 7 or more hours per day with people who arent christian at all when you are a teen is dangerous. They will spend more time with this unchristian people than in home with family.

I dont have children and Im a woman.

I believe sending children to school (catholic NO or public) is exposing them to a lot of danger.

Specially in teen years because of peer pressure. If other girls go out unsupervised with boys you daughter will want to do the same and she will fear to being seen as an alien or being bullied.

Peer pressure, bad NO nuns and priests, watching TV,  can make a lot of damage.

Staying 7 or more hours per day with people who arent christian at all when you are a teen is dangerous. They will spend more time with this unchristian people than in home with family.

I was and still am a misfit freak.  I went to public school where non-virgins were mocked and rejected. The other girls of course went out with guys, unchaperoned, drank, did drugs, dressed immodestly. I had no desire for those things, so stood out, was mocked, ostracized.  I went to class, did my work, and stayed home on weekends, pursuing crafts, skills, hiking, camping, either with my parents or alone.  Bullying didn’t remain a problem.  If anyone crossed the line, I knew how to defend myself and took care of the matter before adult intervention was needed.  If any harm was done, it was not to losing a faith I’d never been taught, but it was towards making me a person who self isolates and doesn’t enjoy a lot of socializing.  

Now there isn’t anything wrong For a family to be wealthy.  It is the excess.  Children having 30 Barbie dolls or 100 unicorn is leading children to a life of greed  Poor people even have problems with foolish spending and greed.    Neon pink bedrooms is overkill and the color for the liberal agendas of abortion and sodomy equality. Televisions or computers don’t belong in anyone’s bedroom.  Growing up many of us were blessed if we even had our own rooms. Too much clothes too which children outgrow quickly.  And stop spending foolishly.  Your child does need the designer flip flops that cost a couple hundred and are made in china and really cost a couple of dollars.  Also, diet. Microwave Mac and cheese and chicken fingers is not healthy.  If a child has health issues the whole family should have the same healthy food.  There should be no food in church. You come to pray.  By giving food to children to behave is setting them up with gluttony in the future.  If children can’t sit still for high mass, then go to low mass.  Especially when these families aren’t praying or living the faith during the week.  I see high mass as home school hang out.   Cut out the extra curricular outside activities like dance classes, sports.  They are a waste of time and money.  When we were young we had fun playing with cousins or playing on our own with neighborhood children because back then our neighborhoods and towns were 99 percent Catholic before Catholic elected officials and the diocese sold out to greed,lust, divorce, and clergy sex abuse.  

There are many families living far away from family and friends.  That makes things really hard because a young wife doesn’t have a support system.  Looking back at my grand parents. Family lived together or had their own homes.  They helped out each other.  And they had skills.  They didn’t have tv or technology.  They had each other.