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Note: this is not a duplicate post, but the one above has some mistakes and I could not delete the post even though I wanted to and tried but
by the time it showed up the edit function was already timed out.
Matthew, several years ago, a member of my extended family died and her children had a NO "funeral mass" in the chapel of the nursing home where she had lived. An SSPX priest I know said to go out of respect for our family, but to not participate in any way, so I took my missal, sat in an inconspicuous place, silently read my missal and silently prayed a rosary for the repose of her soul. I had not been near a NO church in many years, and the whole thing just repulsed me. It was more like a party than a Catholic funeral. The saddest part of it all was that she loved Tradition and never went to a NO mass in her life.
This is a very common problem.
A friend of mine informed me of his own mother's death and I went with him to the so-called Rosary. The church (St. Bernardine of Sienna, West Hills, CA) was packed with people, for she had many friends. My friend's 9 brothers and sisters were there, all of whom are conciliar at best (some have fallen away from the Faith entirely). But most of the occupants in the pews were not Catholic.
The 'service' followed a prepared script, something like a stage production or an improvised Novus Ordo liturgy composed by hobbyists. It was presided over by a "permanent Deacon," wearing a liturgical gown of sorts, as they are wont to do. He announced they would have "a decade" of the Rosary, and guess which one?
You got it, The Resurrection.
They told me that there had been a meeting when the Bereavement Ministry sent a couple to the home of the deceased and the family answered questions, while the couple checked boxes on their Form. One question was, Do You Want a Rosary or a Decade? They chose the Decade because they didn't want to make all the Protestants who would be there uncomfortable.
Fact: There is no indulgence attached to the prayer of one decade of the Rosary.
Fact: The Rosary is the single most heavily indulgenced prayer in the Church for laymen.
Fact: When a group of people pray the Rosary together, each person gets the grace of ALL the people praying, such that for three people each get the grace of three Rosaries, and for 10 people each get the grace of 10 Rosaries, etc.
Fact: When there are 150 people praying an entire Rosary, the total graces for the group amounts to 150 x 150 = 22,500 (twenty-two thousand, five hundred) Rosaries.
Fact: When all the people are praying for the intention of the repose of the soul of someone deceased, the person prayed for gets all those graces.
Fact: When 150 pray one decade the deceased person gets no Rosary graces at all, but merely the graces of 150 Our Fathers, 1500 Hail Mary's and 150 concluding prayers (they said Glory Be prayers but in Rosaries for the Faithful Departed, properly one should replace the Glory Be prayers with
Lead: "Eternal rest grant unto him (/her) O Lord," Reply: "And let perpetual light shine upon him (/her). May his (/her) soul and the souls of all the Faithful Departed rest in peace. Amen.")
After the service, I spoke to the Deacon about this topic, and I was amused to find that he was entirely ignorant of it. Each fact I gave him he responded by opening his eyes wide and gasping, saying "Oh, really? I didn't know that!" and other such things.
I told him that he ought to ask the pastor why they are passing up on tens of thousands of Rosary graces when the poor departed soul might be languishing in Purgatory. He promised he would ask about that.
At another venue, I spoke to the pastor in person. It was at the parish where Cardinal Mahony is now in residence (St. Charles Borromeo, North Hollywood, CA). When I mentioned to him about the indulgences, he abruptly turned to his left and moved away from me one or two steps, saying, "Oh, I wouldn't worry about indulgences!" The word "indulgences" was uttered with a scoffing tone of derision, as if to say, that's not important, or indulgences are an obsolete concept. I had to follow him for about 20 feet, to attempt to urge him to reconsider. He became impatient with me and excused himself to walk away to more amusing activities, I'm sure.
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