when you say you want to be a housewife/SAHM? Are women supposed to wait to disclose that and pretend they want to have a career? It seems like as soon as you say you want to stay home they run in the other direction.   :scratchchin:

Traditional, conservative men will not "freak out" by your wanting to be a wife and mother.  You have to find a way to meet right-minded men and put yourself in that environment exclusively.  If you only surround yourself with people from your school or workplace, then that's all you're going to meet are men who've been raised with all the anti-marriage, anti-family propaganda.  Think of them as having been programmed, brain washed into believing certain things.  It's not your job to try to deprogram the robots.  It's your job to find those who haven't "drunk (?) the Kool-Aid" (sorry, that phrase is already on it's deathbed...but it makes the point)

I know it's not easy to meet like-minded people.  I often worry about the future for my children, because we are the only traditional Catholics in our "world" ... However, we know that where there's a will there's a way ... and with prayer and discernment, God will lead you to your true vocation and make it happen, even if it seems to require a miracle.  

I'll admit, even though I was relatively mature (at least I'd like to think), it was a *bit* scary to think that supporting my family was all on me. That I was *responsible* for bringing in X amount of money every month, or else!

I can imagine how comforting it would be to only be HALF responsible, or ONE-THIRD responsible. Much less stress.

But that kind of stress was meant to be, for all married men. It matures you. You get used to it, and before you know it you have a good niche/career where you can easily meet that responsibility. You give up many things to get to that point. And -- most importantly of all -- you become a man. Not just a boy who has been through puberty -- but a true man.

Matthew

In modern society the "stay at home mom" is generally not the traditional Catholic mom.  She doesn't obey her husband.  She wants to control finances.  She doesn't have many children to care for.  She has a maid clean and she likes to eat at restaurants.  She wants a man to take care of her but does not offer anything in return.

It's understandable why "modern men" are wary of women who don't want to "pull their weight."

But that's because they don't believe in the full commitment and they don't expect that commitment from women.

Whats really pernicious, is when a man thinks he's marrying a Catholic girl but ends up with some priest who gives evil advice to the woman.  I bet this happens in the Novus Ordo "all the time" - and I wouldn't doubt it i happens among trads to some extent as well.

Matthew pretty much hit the nail on the head. A non-Traditional Catholic man has a tendency to be lazy, instead of taking full responsibility he wants the wife to work, too so he can sit back and do nothing every now and then after he is finished working for the day. If he even has a job. Something I would like to add is that NO Catholic families are usually more wealthy than Traditional Catholic families. Why? Because Traditionalists understand that the woman working outside the home is an evil unless completely necessary. NO Catholics, on the other hand, could care less because their parish priests don't see anything wrong with it themselves! And why would NO Catholics who probably see nothing wrong with the New Mass, the handshake of peace, woman altar servers and priests, all stuff see anything wrong with the woman getting a job? Yet another danger of the NO.

I guess I just haven't met any REAL men yet. I'll have to talk to God about this!

I just feel like whenever I say that I want to stay at home and not have a career, people just peg me as needy. It's hard to explain but I haven't been met with one positive response from telling people what I want for my future. They all say I need to have my career before I can meet a man and settle down because I don't want to be dependent on someone. It's all just so confusing...

I was just the opposite. Career women turned me off. Who wants a wife driven by her career who, even if she wants kids, will have them raised by daycare so she can hit the office and "get ahead". Career women are trained to act like men, but wear lipstick. Feminine qualities are seen by them to be a sign of weakness in the business world. Women lawyers seem to be the worst in this regard.

There may be truth to the fact that a girl needs enough education to be able to help support herself in a feminine occupation such as teaching or nursing, but I see no reason for girls to borrow huge amounts of money to go to med school or law school, put off getting married, and then feeling obligated to work even with children to pay off the loans. Yet girls are encouraged to do this all the time to the point that they outnumber men in law schools now. Then you have single women and married women (who don't need the money) working taking high paying jobs away from husbands and fathers who need to support their families.

This mindset is also supported by "conservative" NO organizations like Opus Dei. They encourage girls to become lay celibates for them who sign over their salaries. Since "work is prayer", if women want to work and give more money to OD then work away and get holier by all means!

We live in interesting times....

It seems like the Catholic pool is already small but once you add in traditional Mass, homeschooling, and a rural lifestyle, there are about 5 people to choose from lol.  :cussing:

Take a look in the next tank, honey. There's more than one in the shop. lol