I believe the N.O. sacraments to not be valid. Baptism is an initiation and not to remove original sin, exorcism has been taken out. Eucharist is definitelly invalid, because Holy Orders was changed in 1967-68. And that means, no absolution, and Confirmation is out because Holy Orders is out. N.O. is NOthing to me.
Marriage, the man and woman do the marrying. The Church as witness. Clandestine marriages were no longer allowed by Trent for reasons of the Church not being a witness. This was changed because of past abuses, women thinking they were married, the husband was already married someplace else and simply using her...
So if you don't believe there is anyone to witness it in the N.O., clandestine marriage with family as witness?
For the first millennium, there were no real fixed decision on marriage by the Church. Biblical morality, yes. Having power to dictate marriage rules, out of Rome? It was more fluid and local. Rome began to claim real power over marriage when they stated the wife had to give consent in the marriage. If my memory serves me correctly, this occurred around the 12th Century? I had not thought about this in 4 years, so it is quite dusty. Before then, many marriages did not require female consent and they were valid. Once when the Church took power of that decision, even more decision followed. On matters of sin, from St Paul and others, the Church declared what is moral and not moral. But on this and around the same time, the Church began to really decree from Rome, ie: that they thought polygamy was no longer allowed. They did not fully say it was not allowed yet, a pope said he thought it was not allowed. I can get the exact quote from Denzinger.
So what was allowed in biblical times and throughout much of the world - no consent on the part of the female, was henceforth invalidated a marriage. Jacob working for Rachael, did her father ask if she wanted to marry Jacob? It did not matter, the father could make the decision in such matters since the beginning of civilization, all during Roman times though the First Millennium. That decision from Rome saying marriage is a sacrament and requires the consent of both husband and wife was monumental in the history of mankind. It would force all cultures, peoples who would arranged the marriage of their children to others similar in values, culture, morals, etc to allow their daughter to gradually pick the husband of her choice. And the fruits?
This is one reason why some parents desire such high marriage ages, because this was taken away from them. Where in the distant past you would have some Tyrolean peasant young lady set up with an honorable young man of similar culture, tradition, and values who could support her, arranged by her parents and his parents. Now she is throw out into the public, in some instances whoever can best "con" her wins, for young women are easy to fool if someone has developed a skill for it. Of course, you can understand why some want to lock up their daughters until...