Author Topic: Video games internet destroying my marriage (Read 1386 times)

JaneC · « **on:** April 29, 2013, 07:18:30 PM »

Hi. I just want to share with you that video games and the internet are the two major causes of my disintegrating marriage and impending destruction of my family. My husband is now living a virtual life through video games and the internet. I'm now convinced that these games and the internet are, for the most part, straight from hell, and not only because of their content, which is often disgusting enough, but primarily because of the waste of time and consequent neglect of duties of state they promote.

I felt a lot better when I came across this earlier today:

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Satan regards the whole time of our life as short, and, therefore, in tempting us he loses not a moment. The devil is come down unto you, having great wrath, knowing that he hath but a short time (Apoc. xii, 12). Then the devil loses no time in seeking our perdition; and shall we lose the time given to us to secure our salvation? Some will say, 'What evil am I doing?' O God, is it not an evil to lose time in gaming, in useless conversations, which are unprofitable to the soul ? Does God give you time, that you may squander it?

-St. Alphonsus Liguori, Preparation for Death, Consideration XI: On the Value of Time

I felt that they were from hell before I read this. It's good to know I'm not nuts.

Watch out for all kinds of rationalizations from poor souls enslaved by these things. This seductive twisting from blinded minds is also from hell.

Bye. I'm just dropping in to share this and will now resume real life.

sedetrad · « **Reply #1 on:** April 29, 2013, 07:38:08 PM »

I think your marriage has more problems than video game addiction. You should seek guidance from your priest and/or a marriage therapist.

sedetrad · « **Reply #2 on:** April 29, 2013, 07:54:33 PM »

Your husband seems Catholic enough not to post his wife's perceived sins on the internet for others to read. You should follow his example.

Zeitun · « **Reply #3 on:** April 29, 2013, 08:07:28 PM »

Jane,

Sorry to hear this is happening in your family.

First....video games and the internet are NOT destroying your marriage. Satan is destroying your marriage. Please get this straight because it's the key to overcoming this. If you do not come to accept that satan is the cause of this you will most likely end up divorced and that is the goal of the devil.

Your husband has literally lost his mind and satan and his minions are totally in control. The fact that you can still see that something is wrong is good and it now falls on you alone to save your marriage. We all are obligated to save our spouse and help them get to heaven. Never ever listen to people tell you that you need to save yourself and your children by divorcing. That is a lie from the pit of hell.

Your husband is NOT the enemy although you may think so. He is in the far country right now, caught up in a life of fantasy and sin and he is enjoying it. Do not expect him to give this up without the intervention of Christ and His Mother. Sin is fun for a season....but some day your husband will realize that he is sitting in the pig pen and wallowing with the pigs and he will want to come home.

Prodigals do come home. But he can't do it on his own. You are the only one who can wage this battle--he can't do it for himself right now. Gather all your prayer warrior friends and family and begin storming heaven with prayers for your husband to be delivered from this evil addiction. Never ever take advice from people to separate or divorce. That is from hell (the same place the videos and games come from).

I was in a similar situation and everyone advised me to leave. I did and when my priest found out boy was he mad. He explained to me that satan was trying to break up our marriage so that we would both fall into sin and go to eternal damnation.

You may be feeling like an innocent victim in this situation but I can promise you that being in close proximity to this sin often leads to spiritual pride on the part of the wife. Practice humility especially during this time.

I wish you the best and pray you receive the graces needed to pass through this trial with your marriage intact.

Mithrandylan · « **Reply #4 on:** April 29, 2013, 08:46:11 PM »

Good posts so far.

Does anyone else think it odd that this person created an account today to make this post?

The internet isn't from Satan. Satan uses it, sure, but he uses the printing press, too. In the age of great apostasy, the internet is an invaluable tool for discerning Catholics to find reliable and Catholic sources to answer questions that in normal times they could just ask the priest down the block about.

God chose the internet in our lifetime for a reason. The wicked are confirmed in their degeneracy, and the faithful are given good means of instruction.

ServusSpiritusSancti · « **Reply #5 on:** April 29, 2013, 08:52:29 PM »

Jane,

I'm sorry to hear about the situation regarding your marriage. However, the internet is not from satan. As Mithrandylan said, satan can use the internet to make people sin, but that doesn't make the internet evil.

I agree with sedetrad, seeking guidance from a Traditional priest would be a good idea. Please be assured of my prayers as well.

God Bless.

Telesphorus · « **Reply #6 on:** April 29, 2013, 09:09:08 PM »

Quote from: JaneC

Hi. I just want to share with you that video games and the internet are the two major causes of my disintegrating marriage and impending destruction of my family

Your marriage is permanent. And your family, if separated, will not be destroyed.

Raphael · « **Reply #7 on:** April 29, 2013, 09:30:20 PM »

Hey Jane. I'm praying for you. Don't stop fighting! You must not give up. One way to "convert" a spouse is to focus on your spiritual life. When you're weary of feeling alone, pick up the Imitation of Christ, slip in a decade or two, or best of all try to get to Mass. The consolations that follow will help you carry this heavy cross. And, hard as it might be, try your hardest not to be bitter towards your husband. Understand we are all weak.

JaneC · « **Reply #8 on:** April 29, 2013, 09:33:57 PM »

I'm a little surprised at the hostile tone of some of the responses so far. Just a little though, because after all this is the brutal internet. Are you hostile ones video game players?

To clarify, I've long discussed this matter with a fully traditional priest (who's not all wrapped up in conciliar madness). He thinks my husband might be possessed, and that the gateway for the possession was the blasted video games, pornography or something else on the internet. For the survival of my family I might have to pack up. Not divorce, just leave for safety.

I share my story to warn you against video games and the internet. Also read what St. Alphonsus says about wasting time.

I've created this account to mask my identity and that of my husband. I've never before posted anywhere under this name and will never do so again.

Telesphorus · « **Reply #9 on:** April 29, 2013, 09:43:34 PM »

Clergy (these days) typically give women permission to pull the plug on their husbands.

So just because the priest told you it was OK doesn't make it right.

You'd better search yourself to ensure you're being completely honest with him and with yourself.

The hostility you're getting is in response to what you're obviously planning to do.

I hope your husband recovers himself, and that you find that that leaving him is unnecessary.

ora pro me · « **Reply #10 on:** April 29, 2013, 10:03:41 PM »

Quote from: Raphael

Hey Jane. I'm praying for you. Don't stop fighting! You must not give up. One way to "convert" a spouse is to focus on your spiritual life. When you're weary of feeling alone, pick up the Imitation of Christ, slip in a decade or two, or best of all try to get to Mass. The consolations that follow will help you carry this heavy cross. And, hard as it might be, try your hardest not to be bitter towards your husband. Understand we are all weak.

JaneC, I have only 2 suggestions to add to Raphael's post.

First, I suggest that you continue to trust your priest's counsel rather than these posters on this site or any other site. It's interesting to me that some posters seem to believe that they can give advice even though they cannot know an anonymous poster's full story. I'm sure that your priest knows you and your husband much better than any of us on this blog or any other could know from your short posts.

My one other suggestion is to ask your husband to pray the family Rosary each day with you and your children. If he will not join you, lead the Rosary yourself with your children. The family Rosary has overcome many such battles. Pray also to St. Michael.

Please be assured of my prayers for you, your husband and your family.

Napoli · « **Reply #11 on:** April 29, 2013, 10:39:06 PM »

I will pray for you.

Hang in there.

Pax

Mithrandylan · « **Reply #12 on:** April 29, 2013, 10:43:51 PM »

BTW, Jane-- I'll shoot some prayers your way. There's no such ting as an unneeded prayer. But you should appreciate that coming on here the way you have is going to invite suspicions, and your claims against the internet made to strangers on the internet is perfectly ironic.

Zeitun · « **Reply #13 on:** April 29, 2013, 10:49:23 PM »

Quote from: ora pro me

My one other suggestion is to ask your husband to pray the family Rosary each day with you and your children. If he will not join you, lead the Rosary yourself with your children. The family Rosary has overcome many such battles. Pray also to St. Michael.

Please be assured of my prayers for you, your husband and your family.

Family rosary is the most powerful weapon against these spiritual attacks. It has driven out many sins in my own familly. Deo gratias!

songbird · « **Reply #14 on:** April 29, 2013, 10:56:54 PM »

Be sure you have holy water in the house and sprinkle it about. Rosary! You are in our prayers.