Glad to hear you are discerning, Colin! I don't hold the same position as you regarding the rite of Episcopal Consecration, but
I do share your stance re orders that act as if it is necessary to obey the unjust "laws" of local ordinaries.
If you have read this forum for any time you are probably already familiar with the Dominicans of Avrille. They are Resistance affiliated I believe, and I know that some Americans have joined them. You probably would be required to learn French if you discerned with them, but I would guess that they would allow you to start discerning as you are.