gobosox91- If I may give you a recommendation in fighting your scruples- retreat!
Retreat to a life of prayer- get away from the 'debate', for now- it will only fuel your scruples and doubt. Pray; meditate; say your Rosary; receive our Blessed Lord, and ask Him after you receive his most Precious Body in your Thanksgiving for help. He wants this of you; you are trying to attack this on an intellectual level, and if you continue, may indeed lose. Its happened many a time before. Be assured you are not the first confronted with this. Those who are successful, are the ones who follow the advice of a good spiritual director (your priest) and who turn to prayer as above. You need the protection of Christ and his Blessed Mother now, more than anything else. Once you can confirm that you have their help, you can revisit these issues- but not until then.
You will be in my prayers, indeed.