From what I recall from developmental psychology boys and girls typically don't want to play together. We did chase girls on the playground in second grade - we were finally given a "talk" about how we were too young to be interested in girls . . .
Yes at certain ages boys and girls do think of eachother as "yuck".
I think it is rediculous and totally prudish to have to be given a talk about being too young to be interested in girls. This can be totally innocent and doesn't mean that you are interested in them
This "stait jacket" mentality is not healthy or normal.
This person is creating a straw man in saying that "amish" types don't want boys and girls to play together. The important thing is to guard innocence and prevent serious misbehavior by proper supervision while allowing for proper interaction of the sexes.
Of course it is important to guard innocence though children at a young age, if their minds have not already been perverted and corrupted already, do not need to be separated like sheep and goats to prevent them getting up to no good. A little suppervision can do that.
There is no balance in this. On one end of the scale we have public schools handing out bananas and condoms and other the other we have those in Taditional schools shaking in their boots because they think the girls and boys may look at eachother.
As I said this is not healthy or normal. What we need it a balance and moderation for healthy balanced Catholic children.
The SSPX priests will tell young women to ignore a man who says hello to them at church - this after having already met. This is more about control though than it is about protecting innocence. There are some very sick control freaks - and the confessional is their way to manipulate and feel powerful.
Yes you may have had a bad experience Tele though this does not mean all SSPX Priests are like this.
I think its time that you build and bridge and get over your bad experience and realise there is more to life than bearing grudges. There is a whole world out there and more than just that one Priest.