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Saying Goodbye toVisiting a Dying Loved One
« on: December 11, 2015, 06:53:15 PM »
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    • So I am heading to the hospital tomorrow with my husband to visit his dying cousin.  I have never been in a similar situation (as in literally visiting with someone who is hours/days from dying).  If you have experienced this, could you please give me advice on what a person is to say or do?  In this case, the woman is a Catholic.

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    « Reply #1 on: December 12, 2015, 09:02:56 AM »
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    • I see no one has any advice, so I just ask for prayers for this soul and to help me find the right words (or perhaps no words).

    Thank you.
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    « Reply #2 on: December 12, 2015, 10:04:26 AM »
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    • First worry about getting her a priest for the last sacraments (assuming she has not already had a priest), hopefully you can be there at the same time as the priest but if not oh well, send him there anyway.

    Let her know she's in your prayers, and bring her a rosary and scapular and maybe a holy card and maybe break the ice letting her know about family? Hard to say not knowing anything except what's in the OP.





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    « Reply #3 on: December 12, 2015, 10:03:15 PM »
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    • Sorry I did not see your post until today.

    When my FIL was dying I prayed the Rosary for him.  He could not participate.

    I guess what you say depends on the person and their condition.  My FIL was barely conscious so having a conversation was not an option.  He died holding my hand.

    He did see something before he died because his previously closed eyes flew open in surprise, he tried to sit up, then relaxed back onto the bed, closed his eyes, exhaled, and was gone.  All that happened while holding my hand, I saw nothing.
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    « Reply #4 on: December 13, 2015, 07:10:06 AM »
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    • For those who responded here or in PM, thank you.  Unfortunately, I did not see these posts/PM's until I returned last night and this morning.  However, I think things went as well as can be expected.  

    Since I am not close with this person, my husband spent the up-close time with her and I supported him on the sidelines (in the room but literally behind him).  When I could I prayed some Hail Mary's.  This is what felt right for me in these circuмstances.  

    I think she will be gone before the weekend is out.  She is a pre-VII Catholic that is now a NO Catholic.  It is my understanding that she had/will have the last rites.  

     
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    « Reply #5 on: December 13, 2015, 11:49:34 AM »
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    • From another thread


    The three prayers for the dying that are in the old Rituale Romanum would be the best.
    They are also in the 1961 Parish Ritual.

    I'm sorry I don't know how to copy and paste them here. If anyone does, perhaps they could post them.
    These are the actual prayers the priest prays before Extreme Unction.

    Many are familiar with them from the Pieta Prayerbook, albeit this book omits the Pater and Ave prior to each prayer.

    Perhaps Matthew could post these prayers (You have them in leaflet form) on the
    The Sacred: Catholic Liturgy, Chant, Prayers topic permanently at the top so we could access them in a hurry when we need them.
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    « Reply #6 on: December 14, 2015, 11:38:47 AM »
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    • Thank you Matthew for posting these prayers where we will have easy access to them.
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    « Reply #7 on: December 14, 2015, 07:24:07 PM »
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    • Thanks again everyone.  Just heard she passed away this morning.  

    Eternal rest grant unto her O Lord.  

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    « Reply #8 on: December 14, 2015, 08:54:10 PM »
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    • Thank you Miseremini for suggesting it, I have printed them out and will keep them in my "church" bag.

    Canisius Books has a wonderful little book entitled Instructions and Devotions for the Sick, Dying, and Deceased  I had completely forgotten about it until this thread came up.

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    « Reply #9 on: December 15, 2015, 03:46:18 AM »
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    •  :pray:
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    « Reply #10 on: December 16, 2015, 12:20:06 AM »
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    • You could ask if the person has had he opportunity to see a priest.
    If they have not had that opportunity then you could offer to them to make those arrangements.
    I will pray for you and this person.  
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