The Third Means: Suffering
The Third Means of avoiding Purgatory is very easy. It consists in making a virtue of necessity, by bearing patiently what we cannot avoid, and all the more since suffering, borne patiently, becomes easy and light. Suffering, if accepted with calmness and in uniformity and conformity with God’s Holy Will, loses all its sting. If received badly, in the spirit of revolt and with repugnance, it is intensified a hundredfold, and becomes almost intolerable.
Everyone in this vale of tears has to face sorrows innumerable and infinite in variety. Crosses light and crosses heavy are the lot of us all. Strange as it may seem, these sorrows, which most of us would gladly dispense with, are in truth God’s greatest graces. They are the little share He offers us of His Passion and which He asks us to bear for love of Him and as penance for our sins.
Borne in this spirit they will lessen considerably our time in Purgatory and very possibly completely remove it, but with difference. A period in Purgatory of even 50 or 100 years, will in no way increase our merits in Heaven. However, every pain and sorrow and disappointment in this life will lessen our suffering in Purgatory, and also bring us more happiness and glory in Heaven.
Consider these sufferings as “opportunities”. Opportunities to help to purify your soul, but also opportunities to offer up to God all of your pain and sufferings, not only for you own sins, faults, and imperfections, but also for the Poor, Suffering Souls in Purgatory.
How many Souls in Purgatory are “left” in Purgatory by God because, when they were yet in this life, they lacked Charity for the Poor Souls then in Purgatory.
How many missed opportunities did such souls have when yet in this life they could have had Masses offered for the happy repose, and hopefully release, of souls from Purgatory? How many prayers did they say for the Poor Souls?
But because God is never outdone in generosity, those souls in Purgatory who, when yet in this life, had Masses offered for the Poor Souls, prayed for the Poor Souls, gained indulgences, especially plenary indulgences for the Poor Souls, will assuredly have a much shorter stay in Purgatory than those who totally ignored the Poor Souls in Purgatory!
The awful truth is this: the Souls who are left to “rot” (as the expression goes) in Purgatory, maybe for thousands of years?, are most probably those souls which had no mercy, no compassion, and no charity for the Poor Souls when they were yet in this life and who failed to say any prayers for them, or gain any indulgences for them, or have any Masses offered for them.
Therefore, the Justice of God, being fair, IF it happens that those who are left behind in this life after such a soul ends up in Purgatory after their death, have Masses offered for the newly deceased, or say prayers for them, or gain plenary indulgences for them, God will apply all such things, no matter what they are, to those other souls in Purgatory who, while yet in this life, did do such things for the Poor Souls - thereby leaving the inconsiderate, unmerciful, uncharitable souls who in this life totally ignored the Poor Souls - will now be totally ignored during their perhaps very long stay in Purgatory?
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