I'm forced to attend my father in laws novus order funeral unless I want a divorce, I'll just sit there and pray,
do you think being a pall bearer or reading a speech my brother in law wrote out would violate
"abstains from any positive action."
I told them i wouldn't do it but just wondering what you guys think.
God have mercy
Whoah Nellie --
You're the first person in this thread to apply "Non-Catholic" to the Novus Ordo.
Those quoted rules apply to
non-Catholic services. Virtually non-Catholic isn't quite the same thing :)
The Novus Ordo is tricky, because it's supposed to be Catholic on paper, even though in practice it's very much like a Protestant service.
You can't dictate how your father-in-law deals with the Crisis in the Church (up to and including "ignoring it altogether"). He died in the Novus Ordo, and that's going to determine the location of his funeral. Being a Pall Bearer is "burying the dead", a corporal work of mercy.
Normally speeches by laymen are not part of a traditional funeral service, but at this sentimental love session called a Novus Ordo funeral it would still be better for a man to speak than a woman.
The funeral service isn't a Mass anyhow, right? Bringing up "gifts" during the Offertory at a N.O. Mass would be very bad.
However, your family should respect your beliefs and not force you to get too involved with a N.O. Mass. On this heading, it's important that the rest of your life is integrally, solidly Traditional Catholic so no one can even think about calling you a hypocrite. If you do other things (and visit other places) a Trad should be ashamed of, you don't have much of a leg to stand on.
But if your whole life is Traditional Catholic, they really can't expect you to play Novus Ordo.
It would be like expecting Phil Robertson (of Duck Dynasty fame) to direct traffic during Manhattan's rush hour. It's just not what he's about.