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« on: June 11, 2015, 01:12:27 PM »
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  • Yeah, this is that girl that was in legal trouble that everyone warned me not to get in a relationship with...you were all right about her. Not only did she never become Catholic, she used me too...there's being young and naiive...well I am old and naiive.
     
    I should have seen this a long time ago but you live and learn I guess. She was always telling me she needed money for court stuff, for her car repairs, and for food and gas. This was fine and believable before she started working. But after she started working she still always needed money because she had to use her whole check to pay fines and court costs or some other excuse that sounded believable at the time like car repairs or something. I even road with her in her car and I don't doubt her car needed repairs but something wasn't right.

    The last thing she did was have me take out a loan for her car repairs and to supposedly pay off the rest of her contract for court. She was also going to use the loan to pay me back some of the money she owed me. She said she would sign paperwork to have the money to pay the loan taken out of her pay check. I kind of figured she would never pay it back but I used it to test her.

    Well, then she kept saying she kept getting sent to jail for stupid things like not having a sticker on her license plate or she got sent to jail for not wearing her seatbelt or for being pulled off on the side of the road talking to her friend and for her brake light not working. She said it was because she was on conditions that they could lock her up for stupid things like that.

    The final straw came the other night when her "father" told me that she was in jail and needed $1500 to get out. He said they had all but $400 of it. I gave her half that night and he told me she would be released yesterday...oh...and her "dad" told me if she didn't get out by last night she would lose her job. So yesterday her "dad" asks me for more money and this time I said no. I told him I didn't have any more...which was the truth...at least not to give her. Before this happened, I noticed she had blocked me on facebook and she gave the excuse that she couldn't get into her facebook either. My mom looked on her account and she hadn't blocked my mom but just unfriended her so I knew her account was still there and she was just blocking me. Her "dad" messaged me last night and said if I can't get her the money by this morning she would be going to prison for her 5 year sentence.

    I am sorry, but I'm not falling for her crap anymore. I already know I am stuck with the loan which is why before I even got the loan I made sure I had enough to take care of it. I am not even really mad about the money. Even though she kept promising to pay me back I never really expected her to. I am more upset that she pretended to love me and tell me how important I was to her. I should have cut the money off a long time ago but like I told my mom last night, you live and learn. That's what I get for getting involved in a girl that has a record.

    Oh, one of the other things that made me realize what was going on is I asked her "dad" what jail she was at so I could go visit her and he always didn't know or said they were moving her or some excuse. Oh, and her "dad" hadn't talked to her since she went to jail but he knew she didn't want him asking me for money but he had no where else to go. So, it's obvious her "dad" was her posing as her dad. The other red flag was when I sent her the last money of course I sent it in her name and supposedly she was going to get the money when she got out of jail but her "dad" said she had her cousin get the money and they didn't ID her to pick up the money. I know that's BS because back when she lost her ID last year I had to send the money to her friend because she couldn't get the money without an ID.

    I would almost be relieved if I found out her story was true and she is in prison and that really was her dad and her story was real but I know that's not going to happen. I at least know she wasn't using the money for drugs because I do know for a fact she was getting drug tested every week and always passed but if this is the kind of person she is, I don't want or need her in my life. I just wished I figured all this out back when everyone was telling me not to get involved with her. Even my mom knew she was bad news but I guess I was blinded by love. I also wrote to her lawyer to ask if she was indeed in jail like she told me so if she's lying maybe her lawyer will call her up and tell her to wise up but I doubt she would listen anyway.

    I will be OK...I'm just heart broken right now. I think  having a dog is better than a girlfriend. All I have to do is feed him and let him out to poop and pee and he loves me unconditionally. He's always there waiting for me at the door when I come home excited to see me. Anyway...I just had to get this off my chest.

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    « Reply #1 on: June 11, 2015, 02:20:54 PM »
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  • Dear Petertherock,

    I am writing to you on behalf of my cousin, Lackawanna Mbusi, who was until recently the valet de chambre of the now deposed emperor of Nigeria. Mr. Mbusi was a good and faithful servant to the emperor, and he cried like a baby when the members of the new People’s Revolutionary Government of Nigeria chopped the emperor up into several dozen pieces and simmered him in a stewpot over a low flame for seventy-two hours. (I have heard that a bit more salt and a few sprigs of fennel would have improved the stew’s taste.)

    As it happens, my cousin is a frugal man, and in the years he served the emperor, he managed to save a bit for his retirement. After an unsuccessful revolution in the late nineties, Lackawanna thought it advisable to use a pseudonym at his bank. What a wise decision! Though all of his private assets were seized or destroyed by the new government (even his precious models of all the Star Trek ships with signed certificates of authenticity from Gene Roddenberry), his savings remain intact, thank heaven, albeit inaccessible at the moment. Lackawanna managed to escape from Nigeria (he’s now living in a small, secluded hotel in Cap d’Antibes), but his modest savings remain at the Amalgamated People’s Bank of Lagos.

    This is where you can be of enormous assistance to us, Mr. Petertherock—and incidentally to yourself, too. A dear friend has told me of your spiritual and material generosity and your unimpeachable integrity, and that is why I am turning to you now. My cousin and I have been looking for such a man as you to help him out by arranging for a wire transfer of his savings—which amount to 48.9 million US dollars—to an American bank. Lackawanna has told me that he would consider it an honor to transfer $12 million of that amount to you as a small token of his appreciation for your help if that bank were to be yours.

    I know that you must be a very busy man, dear friend; a man with many calls upon his time and purse. So perhaps I could help both you and my cousin by handling the transfer for you. All you need do is e-mail me your bank account number, your bank’s ASA number, and your own social security number, and I shall handle all the paperwork that the transfer arrangements will require. I can assure you that within three business days of the arrangement of the wire transfer, the division of the funds can be accomplished. Lackawanna has also told me that he would hate to see you burdened with paying taxes on the part of the $48.9 million going back to him, and so he wants to offer you an additional $1.5 million to cover those taxes and fees. Indeed, my cousin's inherent goodness and generosity rival your own, Mr. Petertherock!

    Do reply to this letter as soon as you can, my dear friend. I eagerly look forward to hearing from you.

    Very truly yours,

    Nunavut Kalevala Johnson
    83 Heroic People’s Drive
    Abandabu, Nigeria


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    « Reply #2 on: June 11, 2015, 02:30:52 PM »
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  • I am not that naiive lol!

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    « Reply #3 on: June 11, 2015, 02:37:04 PM »
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  • You're not the first innocent and naive Trad man to be deceived by a compulsive liar of a woman.

    It almost seems like the smarter the guy is, the better he is at being deceived when a woman is involved. His high intellect (including imagination) helps justify the "gaps" and inconsistencies in the story so that it's more believable.

    I know a mechanical engineer who fell for a story similar to this. I know an architect about my age who fell for a compulsive liar like this. I know another man, a Millennial, who fell/is falling for all sorts of BS stories from a co-worker of his. I don't know how that one turned out.

    Sometimes it's loneliness, sometimes it's desperation, sometimes it's infatuation.

    But in general, Trads are more vulnerable because "to the pure, all things are pure". Which means: it's hard to imagine someone would bald-faced lie to you, when you're not a liar yourself. When you're innocent, many more crimes are "unthinkable". When you're a decent guy, it's hard to imagine someone being so foul.

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    « Reply #4 on: June 11, 2015, 04:00:48 PM »
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  • Adam got suckered by Eve.
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    « Reply #5 on: June 11, 2015, 04:13:21 PM »
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  • Thanks everyone...I don't consider myself any kind of intellectual, but I know what you are trying to say. The latest is her supposed father said she got into a fight in jail and both of them are in the infirmary. I also talked to her best friend and she didn't know what was going on as she has stopped talking to her a week or so ago. She told me if the story is true then she needs to learn a tough lesson. Like she said, she won't learn any lesson if people keep bailling her out. I guess the good news is if it's true she is in jail then at least I wasn't being lied to and it still could be possible that she loves me. But on the other hand, I can't and won't send her any money. She's an adult and needs to learn to take care of her own issues.


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    « Reply #6 on: June 11, 2015, 04:23:28 PM »
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  • What Matthew said. I've seen it with male friends and it's like seeing evil in real time. Both friends were brilliant and of high character. These people play on your conscience and keep you feeling obligated and guilty.

    Peter, I'm sorry you have been through this. Hope is powerful.

    It's no consolation now but it's good you saw the light and are away from her now. Many man never do and they lose their minds  or practically become someone brainwashed by these women. She is going to come back to you in some way, I strongly suggest you do not have any contact with her at all.

    HUGS TO YOU

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    « Reply #7 on: June 11, 2015, 04:50:08 PM »
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  • The minute you get strange calls talking about jail, that's when you realize that the person you were associated was a mistake and you have jeopardized your reputation by having any previous contact.  

    You have to build people skills somehow.  Learn how to tell who the dishonest, unreliable are.
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    « Reply #8 on: June 11, 2015, 04:52:31 PM »
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  • Claudel,

    Is that goood deal reserved solely for PetertheRock?

     :surprised:

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    « Reply #9 on: June 11, 2015, 05:21:31 PM »
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  • Quote from: Capt McQuigg
    Claudel,

    Is that goood deal reserved solely for PetertheRock?


    Of course not! I'm always at the service of old friends. Just send me your bank and SS numbers, and I'll forward them to Mr. Johnson in Nigeria.

    As for Rocky Pete, I think he's way too busy trying to decide whether to invest more time, energy, and cash in Miss Jailbird to help Mr. Mbusi escape his misfortunes.

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    « Reply #10 on: June 11, 2015, 05:37:53 PM »
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  • I don't know your story Petertherock but it seems clear to me that you have "white knight syndrome."  Trad men are prone to this syndrome.  I have seen it time and time again and it never turns out well.  You need to get a handle on this quickly or else you will continue to be "brokenhearted" and taken for a ride.  


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    « Reply #11 on: June 11, 2015, 06:00:34 PM »
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  • I agree with a previous post, she WILL try to get back in your life.  RUN!  She is bad news and always will be.  People like that do NOT change.

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    « Reply #12 on: June 11, 2015, 09:02:59 PM »
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  • If she contacts you and you want to contact her, please post or pm one of us, we are here for you, just don't respond back to her (or any of her messengers) even if you really want to. It's not going to be different, better, or like you first thought it would be.

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    « Reply #13 on: June 11, 2015, 09:11:23 PM »
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  • Quote from: ihsv
    Adam got suckered by Eve.


    Yes, women have been getting us into trouble from the get-go.
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    « Reply #14 on: June 11, 2015, 10:45:58 PM »
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  • I will pray for you.
     :pray: :pray: :pray:

     

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