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Misscarried babies: Why does God let them die unbaptised?
« on: June 01, 2018, 07:23:00 PM »
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  • It does not seem fair that people should be created only to be damned before they ever live a day, and yet it's my understanding that's what happens. 

    I've hears stories of ill babies miraculously surviving just long enough to be baptised and then dying, saved. And it seems arbitrary to me that some babies get taken from this world by no fault of the mother, before she gets a chance to baptise them, and others live just long enough to be saved despite neither being any more deserving than the other(as they aren't even physically capable of sin yet, nevermind reason). And yet that's what happens. 

    Don't assume for a moment that I'm calling God injust or unmerciful, I'm just having trouble understanding the rationale behind why those who never got a chance to be baptised should be punished for it. I know God cannot err or do anything unrighteous, so surely there is an explanation out there. I just haven't found it. 

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    Re: Misscarried babies: Why does God let them die unbaptised?
    « Reply #1 on: June 01, 2018, 07:43:42 PM »
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  • It can be quite difficult to come to terms with these things, but I think it can be good to remember that at the end of the day, life just isn’t fair. 

    My mother was the most devout Protestant I have ever met, and died in that state, firmly rejecting the Catholic Church. As someone who converted after this, how do you deal with the fact that it just isn’t fair? Because it’s not. When in reality, we all deserve hell, but only by a free gift from God called grace can we ever save our souls. He gave us free will, and that was the greatest and most terrible gift He could give, because we are free to love God, as we are meant to, but He also gave us the terrible gift of being able to reject Him. 


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    Re: Misscarried babies: Why does God let them die unbaptised?
    « Reply #2 on: June 01, 2018, 07:43:54 PM »
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  • Forlorn, of course you realise that nothing is arbitrary for God. I don't believe that God punishes children who have no chance of baptism. There are even more of these that we realise, sadly as a result of abortive contraception without the mother ever realising she has been pregnant.

    I believe the  live in a happy state which we do not understand.

    We do not know what the outcome would have been for any child in the circumstance of his  survival to live out his life. Do we know if that child would have lived a sinful life? Been condemned to hellfire and taken others with him. We don't know.

    Just a few thoughts..

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    Re: Misscarried babies: Why does God let them die unbaptised?
    « Reply #3 on: June 01, 2018, 07:49:38 PM »
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  • Limbo is a teaching of the Church.  It's a state of perfect natural happiness, more than anyone could ever have in this life.

    What these infants lose is only the beatific vision, but the beatific vision is a SUPERNATURAL state of happiness that is beyond our natural capacity to understand, and so the human being does not feel "deprived" by not having it.  Nobody deserves the beatific vision.

    It's very likely that the reason God took them in this state is because they would have otherwise grown up and ended up in hell.  Instead, he gave them eternal natural happiness.

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    Re: Misscarried babies: Why does God let them die unbaptised?
    « Reply #4 on: June 01, 2018, 07:51:02 PM »
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  • Don't assume for a moment that I'm calling God injust or unmerciful, I'm just having trouble understanding the rationale behind why those who never got a chance to be baptised should be punished for it.

    They are NOT "punished" by any stretch of the imagination.


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    Re: Misscarried babies: Why does God let them die unbaptised?
    « Reply #5 on: June 01, 2018, 07:58:07 PM »
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  • My mother was the most devout Protestant I have ever met, and died in that state, firmly rejecting the Catholic Church. As someone who converted after this, how do you deal with the fact that it just isn’t fair? Because it’s not.

    No, there's nothing ever not "fair" about God.  People unfortunately have this strange idea of hell, where an extremely devout Protestant is standing right next to Joe Stalin burning in the same intense fires ... with the same demons bouncing back and forth equally tormenting them both.  In one of the Church's teachings regarding no salvation outside the Church, she makes it clear that the sufferings in hell are proportional to one's sinfulness.  Consequently, people who live naturally virtuous and even devout lives probably suffer very little if any ... probably little more than they might in this life, perhaps living in some kind of "happy hunting ground".  I personally believe that there are many people who, while they are not in a state of PERFECT happiness, as in Limbo, still enjoy a measure of happiness in eternity and live in a state very close to that of Limbo.  If they naturally tried to serve God during their lives, they're not suddenly going to be transformed into these raging demonic entities cursing God for all eternity.  As we live, so do we die ... and spend eternity.

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    Re: Misscarried babies: Why does God let them die unbaptised?
    « Reply #6 on: June 01, 2018, 09:27:59 PM »
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  • It is impossible for us to understand the mind of God; just as it is impossible for us to look at the sun without being blinded by it. Our human eyes have limitations, so do our intellects. We simply do not have the ability to understand God's motives, while we are here on earth.

    However, something we can be certain of, is that God is NOT unjust.

    From Romans, Chapter 9:

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    14 What should we say, then? That God is unjust? Out of the question!
    15 For speaking to Moses, he said: I am gracious to those to whom I am gracious and I take pity on those on whom I take pity.
    16 So it is not a matter of what any person wants or what any person does, but only of God having mercy.
    17 Scripture says to Pharaoh: I raised you up for this reason, to display my power in you and to have my name talked of throughout the world.
    18 In other words, if God wants to show mercy on someone, he does so, and if he wants to harden someone's heart, he does so.
    19 Then you will ask me, 'How then can he ever blame anyone, since no one can oppose his will?'
    20 But you -- who do you think you, a human being, are, to answer back to God? Something that was made, can it say to its maker: why did you make me this shape?
    21 A potter surely has the right over his clay to make out of the same lump either a pot for special use or one for ordinary use.
    22 But suppose that God, although all the time he wanted to reveal his retribution and demonstrate his power, has with great patience gone on putting up with those who are the instruments of his retribution and designed to be destroyed;
    23 so that he may make known the glorious riches ready for the people who are the instruments of his faithful love and were long ago prepared for that glory.
    If anyone says that true and natural water is not necessary for baptism and thus twists into some metaphor the words of our Lord Jesus Christ" Unless a man be born again of water and the Holy Spirit" (Jn 3:5) let him be anathema.

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    Re: Misscarried babies: Why does God let them die unbaptised?
    « Reply #7 on: June 01, 2018, 09:47:26 PM »
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  • It does not seem fair that people should be created only to be damned before they ever live a day, and yet it's my understanding that's what happens.

    I've hears stories of ill babies miraculously surviving just long enough to be baptized and then dying, saved. And it seems arbitrary to me that some babies get taken from this world by no fault of the mother, before she gets a chance to baptize them, and others live just long enough to be saved despite neither being any more deserving than the other (as they aren't even physically capable of sin yet, never mind reason). And yet that's what happens.

    Don't assume for a moment that I'm calling God injust or unmerciful, I'm just having trouble understanding the rationale behind why those who never got a chance to be baptised should be punished for it. I know God cannot err or do anything unrighteous, so surely there is an explanation out there. I just haven't found it.
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    Re: Misscarried babies: Why does God let them die unbaptised?
    « Reply #8 on: June 01, 2018, 10:47:58 PM »
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  • The unbaptized who die with only original/venial sin on their souls go to Limbo, not hell.  Limbo is not a place of punishment, like hell, but it’s also not a place of reward, like heaven.  

    The unbaptized infant did not merit the joys of heaven nor do they deserve the pains of hell.  It’s been said by some mystics that many children who go to Limbo escape hell through the mercy of God, who forsaw that they would reject Him and He allowed them to die as infants without baptism so as to escape eternal fire.  

    O the depth of the riches of the wisdom and of the knowledge of God! How incomprehensible are his judgments, and how unsearchable his ways!  (Rom 11:33)

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    Re: Misscarried babies: Why does God let them die unbaptised?
    « Reply #9 on: June 01, 2018, 10:56:50 PM »
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  • My pious hope is that no  one who dies before the age of reason is damned. Augustine believed that unbaptized infants who die  are damned, however
    "For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast."
    Ephesians 2:8-9

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    Re: Misscarried babies: Why does God let them die unbaptised?
    « Reply #10 on: June 01, 2018, 11:06:20 PM »
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    I'm just having trouble understanding the rationale behind why those who never got a chance to be baptised should be punished for it.

    They are not being really "punished" for it. Not on an individual basis, I mean.

    The eternal loss of the Beatific Vision is our default state since our vey conception, thanks to the Original Sin. This most dreadful condition of ours can only be helped with the Sacraments instituted by Jesus Christ and dispensed by the Holy Roman Catholic Church.  
    If anyone says that true and natural water is not necessary for baptism and thus twists into some metaphor the words of our Lord Jesus Christ" Unless a man be born again of water and the Holy Spirit" (Jn 3:5) let him be anathema.


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    Re: Misscarried babies: Why does God let them die unbaptised?
    « Reply #11 on: June 02, 2018, 01:04:34 AM »
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  • I highly doubt an innocent unborn baby is damned, I hope not, as someone who had a stillbirth.

    I also recall a lady asking padre pio if her JEWISH (unbaptised) father is saved, think he was called Julius.

    Padre Pio replied "Julius is fine, but you must pray for him very much". Implying he was in purgatory.

    So you never know...


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    Re: Misscarried babies: Why does God let them die unbaptised?
    « Reply #12 on: June 02, 2018, 05:30:14 AM »
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  • I've had 3 miscarriages.  It IS hard to understand why God allows something for one person, and a different thing for someone else.  However, I agree with Pax Vobis:  

    1.  "The unbaptized who die with only original/venial sin on their souls go to Limbo, not hell.  Limbo is not a place of punishment, like hell, but it’s also not a place of reward, like heaven."

    2.  "The unbaptized infant did not merit the joys of heaven nor do they deserve the pains of hell.  It’s been said by some mystics that many children who go to Limbo escape hell through the mercy of God, who forsaw that they would reject Him and He allowed them to die as infants without baptism so as to escape eternal fire."  

    My babies in Limbo are very happy there; they don't know that they're missing the beatific vision.  God did NOT have to create this place for them.  But he's so good, He did.  And I'm glad to know that they're safe.  I'll never, ever have to worry about Hell or mortal sins for any of them.

    And consider that God did not even HAVE to create them; but He DID.  At least they have souls--and bodies--and have been given that opportunity to be happy in that natural state forever.  I'd rather have that for them than not have them at all.    

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    Re: Misscarried babies: Why does God let them die unbaptised?
    « Reply #13 on: June 02, 2018, 07:33:44 AM »
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  • I highly doubt an innocent unborn baby is damned, I hope not, as someone who had a stillbirth.

    I also recall a lady asking padre pio if her JEWISH (unbaptised) father is saved, think he was called Julius.

    Completely different.  Adults who die outside the Church are in a completely different situation than unbaptized infants.  Padre Pio lore is 90% apocryphal (aka made up).

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    Re: Misscarried babies: Why does God let them die unbaptised?
    « Reply #14 on: June 02, 2018, 07:42:55 AM »
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  • Thanks for all the responses guys.

    I've had 3 miscarriages.  It IS hard to understand why God allows something for one person, and a different thing for someone else.  However, I agree with Pax Vobis:  

    1.  "The unbaptized who die with only original/venial sin on their souls go to Limbo, not hell.  Limbo is not a place of punishment, like hell, but it’s also not a place of reward, like heaven."

    2.  "The unbaptized infant did not merit the joys of heaven nor do they deserve the pains of hell.  It’s been said by some mystics that many children who go to Limbo escape hell through the mercy of God, who forsaw that they would reject Him and He allowed them to die as infants without baptism so as to escape eternal fire."  

    My babies in Limbo are very happy there; they don't know that they're missing the beatific vision.  God did NOT have to create this place for them.  But he's so good, He did.  And I'm glad to know that they're safe.  I'll never, ever have to worry about Hell or mortal sins for any of them.

    And consider that God did not even HAVE to create them; but He DID.  At least they have souls--and bodies--and have been given that opportunity to be happy in that natural state forever.  I'd rather have that for them than not have them at all.    

    My post was made in response to learning about my grandmother having a miscarriage and worrying about what happened to the child for many years after. It's comforting to hear that it turned out fine.

     

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