Author Topic: Miscarriage. (Read 2604 times)

s2srea · « **on:** February 27, 2012, 05:13:14 PM »

Just wanted to let you guys know my wife miscarried over the weekend, so if I don't mention our pregnancy again, or if, God willing, we are pregnant again you know why.

We're okay. We've never dealt with this. My wife was sad, and I had no idea how to react when we found out that that's what happened. She cried during the night time, and I felt a little bad because I tried to play it off during the day for her, but I realized she was more upset than I expected. My mom was also upset.

I told her it was by the will of God that we were pregnant, and it is by His will that we are not anymore. What I didn't tell her, is that I feel sort of awkward about the child, knowing that it will not go to Heaven. It like I'm inclined to almost feel resentful, that we were pregnant to begin with, and then that this happened. Of course, I know better than to actually believe it, but it is a strange feeling. Can I even pray for the unborn child?

Telesphorus · « **Reply #1 on:** February 27, 2012, 05:22:40 PM »

That's just awful. Surely you can pray for your child, and take comfort in the knowledge that God will not punish someone not guilty of deliberate sin.

s2srea · « **Reply #2 on:** February 27, 2012, 05:24:13 PM »

Thanks Tele. I will do that then.

Capt McQuigg · « **Reply #3 on:** February 27, 2012, 05:35:50 PM »

Quote from: s2srea

Can I even pray for the unborn child?

My wife suffered through two miscarriages, so the despair can become real. Don't let your wife fall into despair.

Dedicate your daily rosary (if you haven't already) to your unborn child, that child will always be a part of your family no matter how large the family becomes, God willing!

Busillis · « **Reply #4 on:** February 27, 2012, 05:37:37 PM »

alaric · « **Reply #5 on:** February 27, 2012, 05:42:57 PM »

Very sorry for your loss.

Sadly, I have expierenced the same quite a few years ago.

May God help you through this troubled time.

PartyIsOver221 · « **Reply #6 on:** February 27, 2012, 05:44:23 PM »

Yes s2srea, pray for that child. I knew a family that would pray in their nightly rosary for their miscarried children (all 3 of them, if I recall) and it was a very beautiful thing.

ServusSpiritusSancti · « **Reply #7 on:** February 27, 2012, 06:04:01 PM »

I'm so sorry, s2s. Prayers for you, your family, and your unborn child.

wallflower · « **Reply #8 on:** February 27, 2012, 06:16:30 PM »

I'm sorry for your loss. There are many miscarriages, even many that are unrecognized and I firmly believe God has a very special place for those little souls. Take comfort in his happiness, even if it is a natural one, it is complete. He is in good company and has probably met mine by now. :)

I don't think I saw how far along your wife was? Make sure she gets plenty of rest because this is physically draining for her but not so much rest that it fosters depression. Some light activites would be helpful. This is a true loss and it's best to deal with it as such in terms of facing feelings and working through them openly and together and letting them take time, patience and prayer to resolve.

Our prayers are with you.

udoc89 · « **Reply #9 on:** February 27, 2012, 06:37:54 PM »

I suffered an "abrupted placenta" at almost 24 weeks into my second pregnancy. This was in 1986. No chance of the little one surviving. It was awful. There was no reason for it that we (or the doctor) could tell. I am (and was not) a smoker, and I was far from being overweight--which are two of the things that predispose a mother to an abruption. We were not Catholics at the time.

Support your wife as best you can. She will need it. A baby is a baby whenever you lose it. This sad event in my life convinced my husband--who was before this time on the fence about abortion--that abortion is ALWAYS wrong, no matter when is occurs. So perhaps something good came out of the miserable experience. I got to see my baby, and he was beautiful and perfectly formed.

If your wife is sad, please allow her to grieve. Go to your priest, and seek his advice. You will get through this sad time. The only thing I would caution you against is to take this loss too lightly--at least from your wife's perspective. My husband was a trooper, and we were pregnant again after about two months--even though the doctor told us to wait at least three.

You are in my prayers.

Raoul76 · « **Reply #10 on:** February 27, 2012, 06:40:33 PM »

I'm sorry to hear that. Your wife recently converted, right? This will be a test for her to accept God's will. I'll pray that she can.

s2srea · « **Reply #11 on:** February 27, 2012, 08:24:43 PM »

Thank you everyone for the prayers.

We will offer our rosary for the little one tonight.

LordPhan · « **Reply #12 on:** February 27, 2012, 08:51:49 PM »

Quote from: s2srea

Thank you everyone for the prayers.

We will offer our rosary for the little one tonight.

We will keep you in our prayers. Sorry to hear about your loss.

Hobbledehoy · « **Reply #13 on:** February 27, 2012, 09:24:14 PM »

I am so sorry, dear friend.

I pray that you and your family will abandon yourselves in filial love and confidence to the designs of Divine Providence, which seem at times perplexing and even hurtful to us. Yet God in His omnipotence and infinite wisdom, whilst having the power to prevent all evil, allows it so that His servants and handmaids can draw therefrom a good that far excels and surpasses not only the evil itself, but any other good that you would have otherwise expected.

This horrible, unspeakable suffering, if you offer it prayerfully to the Heavenly Father in union with the sorrows and pains endured by the Sacred and Immaculate Hearts of Jesus and Mary during the sacred Passion together with the Holy Sacrifice of the Mass, can be a source of untold graces and blessings, and can furthermore become the occasion of a very meritorious Lent.

You and your family are in my prayers, as always.

PereJoseph · « **Reply #14 on:** February 27, 2012, 10:41:10 PM »

I, too, will pray for you, your wife, and your deceased son (?), for the acceptance of God's will, for cheerful spirits, and the blossoming of holy simplicity which is prepared by such events as this.