I must say that I am surprised whenever this type of conversation shows up because at the SSPX I go to now, there are probably more than a few dozen trad young ladies and gentlemen (and a few not quite so young) that I assume are available because they always either come to Mass alone or with their parents - and they are even lovely to boot. It was the same at the two other trad chapels I went to in Louisville when I lived there.
Yes, there are a few places with lots of young people. But other chapels have 5 or less. You have to step outside your own subjective reality a bit, and/or trust us here.
3 places is not the whole United States. You do realize that, right? Go ahead and take a road trip and visit a dozen chapels; then get back to us. We're not making this up.
And I think we focus on SSPX and Independent chapels here on CathInfo. We usually exclude the Indult. The Indult has a lot more young people, but of course you have a classic case of QUANTITY OVER QUALITY when it comes to being serious about he Faith, knowledge of Tradition, or even dedication to the Traditional Catholic cause. An Indult attendee often just "likes" the "Latin Mass" as they call it.
For that matter, I bet there are a ton of beautiful women at Novus Ordo or even Protestant services. But again, you're going down the sliding scale towards quantity at the expense of quality.
That having been said, I need to address another issue:
Right before I met my wife, I thought the same thing as you. "Why seek out a woman in, say, Texas, when you live in the Midwest?" I found two young ladies on Catholic Match at about the same time, and they even had the same first name! hahaha
One lived 3 1/2 hours away, and the other was from Texas. I naturally gave preference to the one who lived within driving distance, and drove up to meet her. She was older, and had a lot of baggage. A LOT. She had been in a physical relationship, and due to the fact she had no children yet, she believed she might be sterile. Like I said, a lot of baggage!
But she attended the local SSPX, and if anything she leaned towards sedevacantist/independent chapel.
Oh, and the women that "dumped me" before her was also SSPX, but she was a bit of a rebel, she smoked, and based on the conversations we had, I would say she was very interested in enjoying the marital debt. I guess I didn't seem lusty enough for her...hahaha.
Meanwhile, the woman I married lived in Texas of all places, and she was currently attending the Novus Ordo, although she was involved with a group that was conservative and even dabbling in things traditional (Gregorian chant, modesty, Eucharistic adoration, the Rosary, silence, silent retreat, etc.)
Needless to say, I had much better luck with the good-willed "Novus Ordo headed towards Tradition" than I would have had with the "lukewarm SSPXer" or the "jaded SSPXer".
Moral of the story: Where they go to Mass today shouldn't be your only consideration. How feminine is she? How docile is she? How good willed is she? Those are more important questions. If she is feminine, docile, and good willed, she'll follow you and you will have a harmonious marriage.
What if I had married a die-hard SSPXer and she didn't want to follow me into the Resistance later? That would be a problem. We would have had the SSPX in common --
per accidens. But we'd each be following our own path, WHICH HAPPENED TO line up, for a time.
P.S. It's amazing how God works. While I was visiting Girl #1, I got a phone message from Girl #2 (in Texas) who I had called a few times (I think it was 3 consecutive days) and she wondered where I disappeared to. I felt bad about that. But I didn't want to call her back then, what was I going to say? "I'm meeting another girl right now...talk to you later". So even after I found out Girl #1 wasn't for me, I was staying with a male relative of hers (overnight) and was kind of stuck. While Girl #1 was "close by", she wasn't close by enough for me, at the time, to make a day trip out of it. I think it was 3 3/4 hours one way.
Looking back, it might have been providential.
1. The only thing better than driving into a field of roses is driving through a city dump, a recently fertilized field, a pig farm, and an oil refinery on the way to that field of roses. Then they smell all the sweeter!
2. From what I've learned of female psychology, "the game", etc. it would seem that playing "hard to get" or anything but desperate makes a man much more attractive to a woman. But let's just say I'm not the type that could pull that off :) So it's like God helped me a bit, by having it happen by accident. He wanted me and Girl #2 to end up together.
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