Either AIR the dirty laundry, or STOP making insinuations, hints, or vague accusations.
How can Catholics think this is morally acceptable?
So it's detraction to say,
"John Doe tends to have sticky fingers. He steals things and once even fraudulently altered the company's expense records for his own gain."
But it's 100% pure Catholic to say:
"John Doe is bad news. He never should have become an accountant. I'm not going to give any details...let's just say we should all pray for him."
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I just don't see it.
How is the latter ANY MORE GENTLE to the poor man's reputation? How is the latter not JUST AS BAD -- IF NOT WORSE than the former?
Let me explain something. Leaving things to the imagination is a very powerful device.
I could give a hundred examples, but I think most of you understand. Leaving the viewer to imagine something scary for himself is 1000X more powerful that plopping ANY creature on the screen by WETA or any another Hollywood special effects studio.
After all, "your worst nightmares" is always scarier that something a third party thinks up.
Alfred Hitchcock made himself famous using exactly this technique. All good scary movies do this.
For the younger among you, imagine you're in an MMORPG (multiplayer online RPG) and a guy comes on and starts killing other players. Which would make you respect/fear him more?
A) He starts trash talking
B) He doesn't say a word
With option B), he could be the devil, a super intelligent bot, some famous player, etc.
But once he opens his mouth, all the other options are no longer possible.
Remember the saying, "It is better to keep your mouth closed and let people think you are a fool than to open it and remove all doubt." -- Mark Twain