Julie10,
Please understand that what you call "nastiness" may just be a lack of knowledge on your part. The novus ordo is very watered down and teaches that pretty much everyone goes to heaven and, sometimes the novus ordo presider will say things like "God hates plastic" or something absolutely counterproductive to the salvation of souls. Well, if you have been listened to novus ordo emptiness all your life and you come to a place like this and hear what some of the greatest Catholic saints and popes in the history of the Holy Church had to say, you would blush, just maybe. We have a lot of knowledgeable posters here who will really give it to you straight!
The novus ordo is a counterfeit form of Catholicism and is toothless and will not lead you anywhere good. The Catholic Church will DEMAND that you change your way of doing things OR ELSE!!! It's Our Lord's Church and He established it for the salvation of our souls so it counts as perhaps the greatest act of charity EVER.
Now, if you just want something to read, then get a Tan Book Co. Baltimore Catechism and get the Tan Book Co edition of St. Francis de Sales's "Introduction to the Devout Life." Start with these books.