I was born in the upper Southeast right after the N.O. was inflicted upon us. Even as a child, I inherently felt something wasn't right and that I didn't belong. This ultimately resulted in severe laxity and a brief period of semi-lapse in my practicing the faith.
To make matters worse, the N.O. parish in which I grew up was very liberal. A parish priest there during or right after V-II (before I was born) left the priesthood and married (I think it was either a nun or someone formally exploring becoming a nun). I can't remember anything specically wrong with the first priest I remember. Then when I was about 10 or so we got a priest who would go all over town in street clothes, walking shorts, whatever.
Then we got an old priest when I was about 16 who nearly drove me out of the church. At the time, I was convinced that he was losing his mind. But in hindsight, it was probably just his way of carrying out his vocation post-V-II. He would torture us with his sports fanaticism during the homily (running down scores like a sportscaster), and I remember at least one occasion of him making a crude sɛҳuąƖ joke (not during a homily -- I can't remember whether it was to me personally or to a group of my teen high school classmates).
Then in college (secular) the campus priest wore street clothes around and prided himself on how fast he could rush through mass. Finally, pushing 30 yrs old, I moved to a town with a very conservative N.O. parish. Now my parish has even started offering some T.L. Masses.
My much older sisters were in Catholic elementary school (parish where the priest left church and married) during V-II. Without going into detail of their circuмstances, it is my opinion that this contributed to the ruination of their lives.
When I was growing up, I'm quite certain there would not have been a T.LM. within 300+ miles of where we lived. In fact, I was probably nearly 20 before I knew they still existed anywhere. Then a few yrs later I heard Pat Buchanan talking about T.L.M. being in D.C. and was amazed.
I have always thought it was a regrettable decision (this is the understatement of the last 200 yrs, isn't it) for the Church to embark on a course of wholesale change in such a turbulent decade as the 1960s; I've always thought it disastrous for the universal church to forego its universal language; wrong to forego the expectation of discipline to do penance of Friday abstinence and Lenten fasting obligations; etc. As for Friday penance, apparently the teaching is to substitute some other penance for abstinence. I was not taught this in 7 yrs of Catholic school nor 5 yrs of CCD.
Sorry to be legthy, but I wanted to provide some background by way of introduction so you know why I'm here and where I'm coming from. I'm late 30s, married, male, professional.
I'm very happy to have found Cathinfo and strengthened to have found there are several other folks out there who relate to my sentiments.