I don't know if they "married" according to their own beliefs, or if they just got together. I will find out. But the point is that he's living with a woman and has at least one child that I know of. I only say this to make it clear he doesn't seem to be a homo, because if you heard him speak you would think he is, because it's just exaggerated, the way he speaks, totally like a flaming homo.
Sometimes a good beating is necessary to snap a person out of their deluded ego and matrix in which they're entrenched, then followed by an act of mercy. Peter cut off the ear of the Roman soldier at the time when the Romans were used as pawns by the perfidious Jєωs to betray Christ, then Christ healed the soldier. Christ could have prevented the attack, but He let it happen and then He healed the soldier's wound. I'm sure it was a wake-up call for the soldier during the attack, then his conversion followed when Christ healed him.
An effeminate "man" obviously never had a real man in his life as a father figure growing up. As a result, he essentially became a social-engineered girlyman, and possibly a pervert (queer or bi), although his visible state in life suggests otherwise since he's living with a woman and has a child out of wedlock. Anyway, it will take an unconventional means of knocking this guy back into proper alignment, which is becoming what he is called to become - a man. The only thing that will effect this necessary transformation is a type of kinetic energy by another man. No talk, no advice, no hinting and no book is going to snap him out of it. He must learn to be a man by experiencing a real man. This is where the affective domain comes into play. The physical beating will make the man appreciate what it's like to be a man, hence an emotional renaissance of the natural order will occur, thus leading to clarity in the cognitive domain - he will realize manhood is severely lacking in himself, and he must become a man. This will be the genesis of him making a conscious effort to become a real man in thought, talk, deed and mannerism.