I do not think that I could not secretly help but to detest him.

Anything beyond that ? I don't know unless they tried to marry a member of my family, then I think I would have an issue.

Like I posted in another thread about a coworker who is a registered sex offender- I suspected long before I confirmed it he was a pervert and I have never been able to overcome my animosity towards him.

I cannot believe the lack of charity of a couple of posters. Jesus modeled for us, to hate the sin but love the sinner. And the hypothetical is about a repentant sinner. We are all repentant sinners.

As stupid as the "Who am I to judge" statement is, remember that F. was talking about an unrepentant sinner.

We have friends, a married couple, and he is a former ɧoɱosɛҳųαƖ. The first time my dh and I went out to dinner with them, I mentioned his former life to my dh and asked if he was cool with that. He said "As long as I don't feel a hand on my knee under the table." lol

This man is just like any other man. They now have a child and have moved to another state. Charity.

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I would tread exceedingly lightly. sɛҳuąƖ perversion is so acceptable in society that they may fall back into it without any real warning like a drug addict relapses. And it would be very unfair to any potential spouses to not be well informed of their perspective spouse's past. There's nothing like a nasty surprise to invalidate your marriage a child or two later. And hey, if they're really repentant and confident in their faith in Christ, then what's a few rumors? I'm sure there are plenty of rumors flying around about a lot of us who come to the Faith after a sinful life. It's not really the sin of the person with the past, but the sin of the gossips.

You say that it would be unfair for a potential spouse to not be warned of a person's sinful past. How could you warn them without committing the sin of detraction? Detraction would occur if the sinner had repented of the sin. So you are saying that if you knew someone who committed sodomy, and that person repented, that you would tell every girl at your Church about that person's sin of sodomy to "warn" them to never commit to a relationship with that person?

That to me sounds wrong. Marriage is a sacrament that is intended to prevent sɛҳuąƖ immorality. If you attempt to discourage someone from marrying a certain  repentant sinner then you would be setting up the repentent sinner for sɛҳuąƖ immorality. Kinda like holding someone down and never letting them get back up. It might actually cause them to fall.

I said potential spouse. I didn't say every lady in church. If they don't know what their  spouse's struggles are, how are they going to help them get to heaven?
It is a disservice not to inform someone about something that might invalidate their marriage, especially if you strongly suspect that they don't know. Hopefully,  the person would inform their spouse about their past but that doesn't always happen.
That was the lovely surprise I got after two years of marriage. If someone had told me in advance what I may have to deal with instead of stuffing it down and hiding it, things would have gone much differently. If even one person had said that this particular sin was one he had struggled with in the past, I could have at least had the opportunity to mull it over and reconsider my abilities to deal with it. Heck, if one person had even asked me if I knew about it, that would've been a blessing! But everyone was trying to be all forgiving and not get involved with "dredging up his past" so when i discovered it, I was completely gobsmacked!  

So, due to the desire of others not to detract my ex-husband,  I now have a broken family, a strained relationship with my oldest child, a strained relationship with my husband and unnecessary hardship for my younger children who hardly see their sister because of years of custody battles. All of which could have been avoided by anyone willing to just make sure that I knew before we got married.

I met a lady, whose job was to meet with Perverts in the jails and such.  She told me, once a pervert, always a pervert.  She said, in her job, she has had many letters given to her from these perverts, that they had seen the "light of God" and blah, blah, blah therefore please let me out of jail, let me go back to my job that I had and let someone watch over me with the kids and such.

As a Catholic, we know that IF, one goes to confession and is sorrowful, sins are forgiven, BUT, in my opinion, I would be very careful around someone like this, for yes, they could go back, just like an alcoholic.  And the Catholic Church had a group of the Sacred Heart for those with addictions.  To be a member, you had to follow the rules, and those rules were to receive the sacraments as often as possible and etc.  

I too, would not see to marriage for this person, and blood tests are an absolute!  I would think that taking care of ones self would be enough cross to bear.  How about those who are bisɛҳuąƖ? In my sister's case, the marriage was invalid, for he lied, kept a secret.  Now my sister with 2 sons, has genital herpes.

Some sins, I think are harder to deal with.