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hardly anyone should get married
« on: March 17, 2018, 01:25:34 PM »
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  • hardly anyone should get married

    We can see by the divorce rate how true that is

    But then there are my experiences in life

    I have not met anyone who was worthy.. plenty I THOUGHT were worthy... until I found out who the person really is (is not)...

    so why all these marriages going on? I think people see unkosher things in the other just as I do.. but they marry anyway... NOT good.. (depending on how unkosher..)

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    Re: hardly anyone should get married
    « Reply #1 on: March 17, 2018, 01:32:38 PM »
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  • With the paltry education and brainwashing given in public schools, community colleges, and universities, is it surprising that both men and women are ill-prepared for marriage?  

    With sexual immorality being taught in English classes and in sex education, is it surprising that most youth by the time they reach the tender age of 18 are no longer virgins and are incapable of being faithful?  Is it surprising that many English teachers, especially those from California and Florida, are using risqué romance or coming to age novels as texts, and by doing so are tempting and even seducing the young men and women in their classrooms? Yes, it is best that our ill-prepared narcissistic youth not marry and destroy more lives through abortion and unfaithfulness.

    We need to pray for our youth, and if we are parents, we need to watch our children carefully and home school them so that they may be pure and chaste.
    Lord have mercy.


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    Re: hardly anyone should get married
    « Reply #2 on: March 18, 2018, 10:57:08 AM »
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  • Brother Bernard of the silver city, NM, monastery: "wouldn't it be great if every one went into religious vocations?"  


    Me: "but then there would be no more people." 


    Brother: "what a way to go!!"

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    Re: hardly anyone should get married
    « Reply #3 on: March 18, 2018, 11:51:17 AM »
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  • I don't know where you were looking, but you were obviously looking in the wrong places. You need to look for your spouse at church, not at the bar. 

    I know, you probably don't go to bars. But still, looking at Barnes-and-Noble, the cafe, the park, or anywhere else "in the world" where the mix is 99.99% not Traditional Catholic is about the same as looking for a good Catholic spouse at a bar.

    Worldly people find improvement in their selection by going to a bookstore or concert instead of a bar. Traditional Catholics do not. The woman will still be wearing pants, feminist to some degree, not raised Catholic (huge obstacle to overcome, even if she's of good will and wants to convert).

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    Re: hardly anyone should get married
    « Reply #4 on: March 18, 2018, 12:52:23 PM »
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  • In the US its common for people (non-Catholics) to raise other people's kids (not condemning that per se). But the reasons for this is that people lay down with each other and start a family out of wedlock and then later don't like that person and trade them in for someone else and the cycle continues. Seems to be a trend among my generation here.

    I never saw that once living abroad. Never knew someone raising someone else's kids (step-dads etc).

    So maybe it's not that people shouldn't marry. It's definitely a cultural thing. My wife was a 35 y/o virgin living with her parents her whole life when we got married (that's how they do it in other countries). You'd be lucky (blessed) to find one (a non-Catholic again) at 18 of such disposition here in the U.S., from what I understand.
    We conclude logically that religion can give an efficacious and truly realistic answer to the great modern problems only if it is a religion that is profoundly lived, not simply a superficial and cheap religion made up of some vocal prayers and some ceremonies...


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    Re: hardly anyone should get married
    « Reply #5 on: March 18, 2018, 09:14:32 PM »
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  • In the US its common for people (non-Catholics) to raise other people's kids (not condemning that per se). But the reasons for this is that people lay down with each other and start a family out of wedlock and then later don't like that person and trade them in for someone else and the cycle continues. Seems to be a trend among my generation here.

    I never saw that once living abroad. Never knew someone raising someone else's kids (step-dads etc).

    So maybe it's not that people shouldn't marry. It's definitely a cultural thing. My wife was a 35 y/o virgin living with her parents her whole life when we got married (that's how they do it in other countries). You'd be lucky (blessed) to find one (a non-Catholic again) at 18 of such disposition here in the U.S., from what I understand.
    You'll find a few in the US, but they won't be American and probably not Catholic, either.  They will be the adult daughters of Asians, Arabs, Indians, Africans for whom culture dictates an unmarried daughter lives with her parents.  
    Personally, I'm glad I never married or had children.  I see what has happened to those of my age group, 55-65, all divorced, raising their grandkids of assorted unmarried children with multiple partners, all have lost the Faith, most follow no religion whatsoever, a chaotic, charityless mess.  I moved out at 18, female or not, it was expected. Wanted when young to be a teaching or medical sister, but by then, the convents were empty, just nuns in pantsuits with bad hair, into occultish trash or silly political causes.  I'm nearly 60, too late for sisterhood, fair health, working long hours to survive.  I'll be satisfied to die at any time, so long as I'm in a state of grace.  

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    Re: hardly anyone should get married
    « Reply #6 on: March 18, 2018, 11:26:53 PM »
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  •  I see what has happened to those of my age group, 55-65, all divorced, raising their grandkids of assorted unmarried children with multiple partners, all have lost the Faith, most follow no religion whatsoever, a chaotic, charityless mess.
    I see this going on too among the same age group. American society is a true mess. I'd hate to see what the next generations will bring.
    We conclude logically that religion can give an efficacious and truly realistic answer to the great modern problems only if it is a religion that is profoundly lived, not simply a superficial and cheap religion made up of some vocal prayers and some ceremonies...

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    Re: hardly anyone should get married
    « Reply #7 on: March 19, 2018, 05:22:45 AM »
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  • hardly anyone should get married

    That was what Jesus' disciples said when he explained to them about the disolubility of marriage. 


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    Re: hardly anyone should get married
    « Reply #8 on: March 19, 2018, 09:47:09 AM »
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  • I see this going on too among the same age group. American society is a true mess. I'd hate to see what the next generations will bring.
    What country are you in? If you are in Central America, all the poor, 80% of the population, the women are living with a different man every 5 years, and the daughters have to leave the house at like 13 just to get away from the new step-father who is there for her more than for her worn out by all the men and child births mother. Then the daughter starts the same pattern.

    Among the poor, the results of immorality are in the raw for everyone to see, because they do not have the money to cover it up with fancy houses, yachts, Mercedes Benz, plastic surgery, make-up, hairstyles, contraceptives, abortions........
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    Re: hardly anyone should get married
    « Reply #9 on: March 19, 2018, 09:55:30 AM »
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  • I moved out at 18, female or not, it was expected. 
    That's an American thing, it was not like that for the Southern Europeans who came to America, like the Italians. Americans are like snakes, they lay their eggs and walk away, and let the children fend for  themselves basically. In my culture, the daughters would remain in the home till they were married to a man that was appropriate in the eyes of the parents, specially the father. The sons were taught a business, how to make a living by the father.

    In America they are both sent away from daycare to K-12, to College/work. They must fend for themselves. 
    The Vatican II church - Assisting Souls to Hell Since 1962

    For there shall arise false Christs and false prophets, and shall show great signs and wonders, insomuch as to deceive (if possible) even the elect. Mat 24:24

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    Re: hardly anyone should get married
    « Reply #10 on: March 19, 2018, 11:53:38 AM »
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  • I'm nearly 60, too late for sisterhood, ...  

    Why?  It shouldn't be.


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    Re: hardly anyone should get married
    « Reply #11 on: March 19, 2018, 12:46:43 PM »
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  • With the paltry education and brainwashing given in public schools, community colleges, and universities, is it surprising that both men and women are ill-prepared for marriage?  

    With sexual immorality being taught in English classes and in sex education, is it surprising that most youth by the time they reach the tender age of 18 are no longer virgins and are incapable of being faithful?  Is it surprising that many English teachers, especially those from California and Florida, are using risqué romance or coming to age novels as texts, and by doing so are tempting and even seducing the young men and women in their classrooms? Yes, it is best that our ill-prepared narcissistic youth not marry and destroy more lives through abortion and unfaithfulness.

    We need to pray for our youth, and if we are parents, we need to watch our children carefully and home school them so that they may be pure and chaste.
    so true.
    no Christian should send kids to public schools... For that matter, neither should nonChristians

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    Re: hardly anyone should get married
    « Reply #12 on: March 19, 2018, 12:48:21 PM »
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  • I don't know where you were looking, but you were obviously looking in the wrong places. You need to look for your spouse at church, not at the bar.

    ha ha... shows what u know
    I was attracted to this one person years ago who was very involved with the Church, had been for YEARS. That person was a psychopath, literally

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    Re: hardly anyone should get married
    « Reply #13 on: March 19, 2018, 12:50:28 PM »
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  • hardly anyone should get married

    That was what Jesus' disciples said when he explained to them about the disolubility of marriage.
    The Word says it is better to stay single bc married people are concerned w/ pleasing spouse and not so focused on pleasing God

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    « Reply #14 on: March 19, 2018, 12:54:41 PM »
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  • If I do recall lucifer thought he was all that compared to his fellow angels.  Anyone without patience and humility should not marry.  Blessed be God for he is good.

     

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