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Here is the thread I'm responding to.

http://www.websitetoolbox.com/tool/post/apologia/vpost?id=3332694&trail=14

This will serve as a running thread to counteract the misinformation and calumnies some Fish Eater posters are being encouraged to type about me as an ex-forum member. The encouragement is coming from the top which is even more shameful.

It is important for you all to realize two things. First, by posting there and failing to ask Quis and Vox to own up to their own marital situation which they chose to make public, you are participating in that very scandal and sin and supporting it through your silence. I'd like to see just one poster with the moral courage to bring it up to them publicly and damn the consequences. In addition, living in a state of sin, no doubt colors these forum owners views of personal morality and Church teaching on truth and morality. Thus some of the sharp biting reaction you will get from the owners of your arguments cut "too close to home".

Second, by silencing yourself as to the theological and moral errors being propagated, allowed, and encouraged on that site (immoral pictures, videos, heresies, gender confusion) in order to lengthen your time on the forum you are cooperating with evil in order to attain an end which does not justify it.

Now, onto the responses.

The thread began innocently enough, simply inquiring into my whereabouts seeing my account had been deleted. I expected this as Quis gave no warning nor explanation to anyone.

I'll now respond to individual comments:

Quote from:  Anastasia
I'm not sure what's going on, but it seemed that every thread he posted on lately got turned into a knock-down, drag-em-out fight.


Quote from:  WRC
Too bad about Stevus.  He's a smart guy and I think a big heart.  But he couldn't take part in any conversation without turning it into some kind of fight.


Some of them did, not all. If you look closely at the ones that did, Anastasia, you will see that those threads were where an unpopular Traditional Catholic opinion was posited by me and then certain liberal posters came out of the woodwork to defeat me by numbers. Some of their posts were indeed viscious personal attacks and , as is typical, trying to divine my intentions and make the thread about me instead of the issue. Those who took the other side through their ad hominems and relentless attacks betrayed the fact that they were not, in reality, arguing so much against me as against their own consciences. It was a matter of "shoot the messenger". They were failing to argue with the message so I supppose that's the only option left.

Quote from: INPEFFES
I liked Stevus, and it dishonors him to sit around and quibble over his fate. Let's just pray for him; it's the charity we owe him as Traditional Catholics who practice what we preach.


Quote from: Lisa
Good point, INPEFESS. I'm sorry for what I said.


INP takes the right approach here. Had his fellow fishies been sane Catholics that is indeed where the thread should have ended.

Quote from: WRC
He is deleted from an internet forum.  He's not dead.


This is ripe coming from WRC who continually called to the carpet any single poster who would in any way criticize a liberal. Yet when it comes to a Catholic..well, as long as he's not dead, he's fair game! On with the calumny!  :ready-to-eat:


Quote from: INP
I know this, but I feel like I'm in the midst of a female-only click assembling outside of Church after the Mass is over gossipping about who left the Church and why. Doesn't it seem a bit immature?


He again nails it. Makes me regret not having more interaction with him while I was there.

Quote from: PaxVobiscuм
A female-only clique?  The original post was by a male and posters in the thread were a mix of male and female.


Haha. This is truly the idiocy we true Catholics have to put up with on Fish Eaters. Can you believe the idiocy of this post? I had to include it. When wisdom is preached some dense poster comes along to redirect efforts elsewhere...

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=Archimedes]I'm still fairly new around here but I am deeply disturbed by this. I personally got a lot out of reading Stevus' posts and I'm a little bit shocked that a 3-year poster with 5,000 posts can be shut down seemingly arbitrarily. Not sure I want to invest time and effort on a forum that can do this.


Great post by Arch! He nails the reason why the rest of them need to watch their backs. If Quis didn't have his bran one morning and they get the best of him they're gone. Unfortunately Arch caves an sucks up later on to save his skin, but that doesn't take away from this comment.

Quote from: Archimedes
Oh no doubt and I fully support that -- I guess I'm just curious what rule was broken (and where it's docuмented) so I can avoid a similar fate


Arch nails it again. There was no rule broken as Quis later is forced to admit. Thus, Arch, there is nothing you can do to avoid a similar fate. It is all arbitrary.

Quote from: Anastasia
It is Quis' and Vox's forum, and they can run any way they darn well please. I'm sure Quis has enough troubles with the forum without someone constantly being on his case.


That they can run a forum how they please is irrelevant. The point is running it and retaining some shred of credibility. Banning 5,000+ posters without warning or explanation or rule violation means every poster must be on guard or they are next. Anastasia politely covers her rear by coloring her nose a lovely shade of brown here.

Oh yes, poor poor Quisie. How will he ever put up with all of his "troubles" with someone on his case?  :laugh1: Oh geez...

More later...


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For Fish Eater Lurkers: The Official "Stevus" Thread Response
« Reply #1 on: March 01, 2009, 04:20:28 PM »
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  • I'm not going to quote Harlequin Queen, I mean King's, post #32 because it is too long but I will respond since he accuses me of "lying".

    I asserted:

    1.) You and O'Neill advocate cross dressing as Traditional

    and

    2.) You took photos of yourself cross-dressed and used it as your avatar.

    You claim I asserted the following also:

    3.) You yourself (not in feminine clothes or wigs) look like a man.

    4.) Your intent was not to cross dress in one of the avatars.

    Then you claim I lied. Nope. None of these statements contradict. Time for logic class young "Harlequin". It doesn't matter what you intended, you looked like a woman in the wig and posted it as your avatar and the owner let it be, just calling it "eccentric". Perhaps Vox makes Quis dress up in similar long wigs and he likes it? I don't know.

    I know Vox posted an avatar of a ɧoɱosɛҳųαƖ man in make-up and a top hat as her avatar, thus perhaps androgyny is king on the fishies board? To all sane Catholics it is scandalous, but in the land of FE, it is Traditional.  :confused1:

    Quote from: HK
    I'm disappointed with Stevus' apparent slander campaign behind my back. The Trinity will not look favourably on that on the last day.


     :surprised:

     
    Quote from: Erin
    Wow, I thought Stevus was kind of an ass, but probably not a bad person, but I have changed my mind after seeing the AQ thread.  He is a liar.

    I do love that he mentioned "people" justifying flip flops at Mass, because that was me.  Yes I wear flip flops to Mass sometimes, but I walk very quietly in them

    Enjoy eating those sour, sour grapes, Stevus, since I know you're reading this thread!


    Pant-wearing feminist charity at work.  :laugh1:

    Quote from: HK
    And after reading the things Stevus has decided to say about me on another forum that I normally never read, I'm pretty pissed off. For all his faux masculinity, I seriously doubt he would want to say any of those things to my face in person.
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    I'd never want to meet you in person for fear of advances. However, otherwise I would truly tell you to your face to stop dressing up like a woman.

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    But if you mean it purely in good-spirited jest, you can call me whatever you want. Stevus has some sort of malicious spirit about him, though.


    The divining of souls continues!


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    It's more embarrassing to the cause of the traditional Catholic faith than any of the stupidest crap I've ever said. And I've said some pretty stupid things.


    Finally something we can both agree on in the last sentence! However, cross-dressing on a public Trad forum is more embarassing to the traditional catholic faith than anything you've actually said.

    Quote from: Sheep
    This is a sad situation in more ways than one, I will miss Stevus I've been reading many of his posts for about three years now, and his posts were humorous(even sometimes when he didn't intend them that way) and sometimes insightful. I think his banning was sad and Stevus trash talking the forum and Quis and the Harlequin King and Oneil at Angelqueen is also sad.


    Sheep, thanks. I'm not "trash talking" the forum. Simply telling the truth about the lack of credibility of the owners and the scandal being caused there. Many over there agree with me (and you know who you are) but don't have the courage to stand up and speak the truth to power like the prophets. They'd rather be complicit and get to keep posting as long as they are not "too" Catholic. Permission to post is their 30 pieces of silver.

    Quote from: HK
    I have been betrayed, and dishonoured. Hardly a laughing matter, even for the Lord of Misrule.


    This guy is something else. He needs to be out LARPing somewhere and not anywhere near intelligent Catholic discussion.

    Quote from: didishroom
    Strange. Sometimes I wonder why I haven't been banned.


    It's because you haven't taken the "wrong" side of an issue against Quis yet. Just wait!

    INP, again the voice of reason below...

    Quote from: INP
    Is all this detraction necessary? No offense, but we criticize Stevus for "trash talking" FE on AQ but then we say things like:


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    For all his faux masculinity, I seriously doubt he would want to say any of those things to my face in person.



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    Stevus has some sort of malicious spirit about him...



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    Wow, I thought Stevus was kind of an ass...



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    Enjoy eating those sour, sour grapes, Stevus, since I know you're reading this thread!



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    And I thought lying was a sin.


    Et cetera...

    ...and publicizing his AQ detractions on FE for all to see.

    At least many are trying to be nice, but how does this look to those who are new and don't know Stevus? What about his reputation?


    Quote from: HK
    It's necessary to point out his lies, and that Stevus has a malicious spirit is a statement of fact. If fact also happens to be a detraction, that's the perpetrator's fault.


     :laugh1:


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    « Reply #2 on: March 01, 2009, 04:34:51 PM »
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  • Fisheaters is often a cesspit of moral perversion.

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    For Fish Eater Lurkers: The Official "Stevus" Thread Response
    « Reply #3 on: March 01, 2009, 05:30:42 PM »
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  • Finally we get to Quis' grand explanation/ sermon/ psychoanalysis/ infallible declaration on myself and Catholic Tradition....

    Quote from: Quis
    If you want me to point to an exact rule why he was banned, I can't.


    Amen. At least he implicitly admits he was arbitrary. This should give all the fishies reason to pause. Even if you follow the rules you're not safe.


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    He wasn't banned for breaking an exact rule.  He was banned for a continuous trend related to this section of the rules, especially the highlighted parts:


    I was banned for a "continuous trend" "related to the rules".

    Is this like the "spirit of the rules"? Emanations from penumbras of the rules?  :laugh1:


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    Another thing frowned upon around here is needlessly making enemies, the "gang-banging" mentality of group-think,


    Quis' cheerleading squad are the definition of groupthink! I don't even think Quis knows what this word means. He sure can't spell it. Anyone who doesn't want to get banned simply piles on anyone on his bad side.

     
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    the overly-critical bashing of certain apologists or groups that are unpopular with many trads.


    How many times has Quis bashed Neo-Cath apologists and JPII himself? I find this amusing. He even has a JPII quote generator on the site mocking a Pope, never mind an apologist. Again hypocrisy knows no bounds. If Quis had to live by his own rules he would have had to ban himself years ago.


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    Slander, detraction, and attitudes that convey the idea that "X is wrong about Y; X said Z; therefore Z is wrong" are not only illogical, they're mean-spirited. Even broken clocks can be right twice a day. Though it's hard sometimes, please try to discuss issues instead of arguing with people. I want this place to be warm and friendly and fun.


    I can hardly believe what I'm reading. Quis personally slanders and detracts from people as his MO. In fact I can't remember an argument he's had where he doesn't hurl ad hominems and divines intent.

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    And, please, for the love of all that's holy, cushion personal opinions and conclusions about where to worship, etc., in phrases such as "in my opinion" or "it seems to me" or "this is what my family has decided to do" -- and don't pretend to be speaking authoritatively unless you are known all over the world as Benedict XVI.


    If this isn't pot accusing kettle I don't know what is. His entire site and forum is him speaking authoritatively and banning others who don't tow his line. His form of "excommunication".

     
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    Don't generalize your personal experiences, callings, preferences, and sense of aesthetics such that what you've decided is right for you and your family with regard to worship, penance, and devotions, how to dress modestly, which music to listen to, etc., is a must for all Catholics everywhere. The old "my family lives on Communion Hosts and water like St. So-and-So. Everyone should! No, everyone must! It's Church teaching! Anyone who doesn't do that isn't a 'real Catholic' or a 'real trad'!" routine won't fly here. Purveyors of such arrogance and judgmentalism will get gone.


    Quis highlights this section. This is another case of Quis divining intent and apparently reading souls. Nowhere on FE did I claim that anyone else was not a "real" Catholic or "real" Trad if they didn't believe in my personal preferences. I simply asked questions as to whether they thought x,y,or z was traditional or not trying to get these people to set some sort of standard for the term. Of course they could not. They ended up with a definition a liberal could live with (which is not surprising since they are liberals.)

    It's a good thing Quis is not a lawyer because he'd fail miserably. All of his evidence is illusory and dependent on his and others' interpretation and speculation. It's all sophistry.


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    Someone asked how could someone with 5000 posts get banned.  The answer is simple: he changed.


    Start the violins/ theme music for the sermon!

    I "changed" in that instead of taking his bait I continually bested him in argumentation despite repeated ad hominems.

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    I saw him go from someone who was curious about traditional Catholicism and interested in learning about the Church, and honestly wanting to do the right thing, and as confused about the right thing as the rest of us


    Last part is incorrect. I was indeed never as confused about the Church as the rest of them. Unfortunately they are still confused. Before getting the Church right they need to figure out that girls have long hair and guys wear pants. That's step one. Then they can go from there.  :laugh1:

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    to someone who talked smack about the Church,


    "talked smack" against the Church?  :laugh1: Of course he can't come up with an example. This guy talked smack about everyone.

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    criticized everything he didn't like as unCatholic, modernist, or at the least "not traditional", and acted like he had an STD (not a venereal disease - a Doctorate in Sacred Theology).  He even accused JP2 of heresy for the purpose of winning an argument.


    Sour grapes since he was on the losing end of that argument. Hypocrisy since the guy mocks JPII at every opportunity. Instead of mocking a Pope I pointed out that at an audience he made a mistake in stating doctrine. I kept telling him it's not about "heresy" , that wasn't my point. An example of how he continually tried to bait to ban you and "win". If he could get me to play the "heresy" game he would have accused me of violating the sede rules and been done with me. I wouldn't bite and kept re-focusing. Then Caminus came in and obliterated him further. He actually stopped posting on that thread he was so embarassed. It was sad.

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    He did, as some pointed out, became increasingly argumentative with people,


    This coming from a guy who shouted down and banned two posters before they got to their 50th posts over arguments he was losing.

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    and his arguments became increasingly disingenous.


    My arguments were never disingenuous. This is about Quis' reading hearts and souls again. Because you won't bite his bait and go down his alley you are "disingenuous". He wanted me to provide evidence and prove a negative when he couldn't prove his positive assertion. Because I refused this ridiculous demand he called me "disingenuous".

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    I finally had enough of watching it happen and jumped in a few times, most recently on the discussion about "the consensus of theologians" where I called him out on what he was saying.  People can read that and come to their own personal conclusions about how the discussion went.  I'm not even saying whether they agree with my conclusion or his - I'm talking about how he argued, and my opinion of how he argued is clear in my closing argument.


    Here's the thread

    http://www.websitetoolbox.com/tool/post/apologia/vpost?id=3303831

    Notice how he feels the need to point out the qualifier "I'm not saying whether they agree with my conclusion". That's because any rational Catholic wouldn't. My "style of argument" was mentioned above. He made an absurd assertion that the consensus of theologians is morally binding on us and after I broke down all of his proof he demanded I produce my own. But I never made an assertion. I only asserted that his was wrong.

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    He went down the same path on the Ash Wednesday thread by misrepresenting things I and others had said, along with an outright lie that's there for anyone who wants to bother to find it.


    Here's the thread:

    http://www.websitetoolbox.com/tool/post/apologia/vpost?id=3327531

    His claims are ridiculously untrue. A quick read of the thread tells you that. I'm actually embarassed for him that this is the hill he chose to die on in banning me. The arguments were straightforward. I basically mortally wounded him in my last post. There was nowhere he could go. He was basically shamed into the ban. Can't say it wouldn't have been tempting to me if I was in his shoes...

    He misrepresented what I said and did so repeatedly throughout my time there. Check out the snide ad himinems as well. Those are his calling card. He sees what he wants to see. He sees strawmen he wishes and hopes his opponents would say but they never quite do. Then he pulls the intent card and says you intended to say the strawman!!  :laugh1: So I will knock him down anyway..

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    After several months of watching this, and being involved in it, enough was enough for me.


    Trabslation: "After several months of jumping in to Stevus' threads baiting him and having my clock cleaned, I decided enough was enough for me."

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    That he lied on AQ is unfortunate,


    These people need to read the definition of "lie". Lie = not telling the truth. maybe "not" isn't in their copies of Webster. By the way Quis quoted Webster to me once as an authoritative theological source.

     
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    but it is more unfortunate that I can't say it suprised me after seeing how he argued his positions on this forum with what, in my opinion, was a lack of intellectual honesty and a disregard for finding the truth.


    Translation: "The bastard simply would not agree I was right no matter how many tricks I used. He wouldn't take my bait either and didn't violate any rules. So I need to make up some good sounding other reasons. Ah, yes, he lacked intellectual honesty and disregarded finding the truth (my opinions)."

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    And this goes back to how he changed especially over the last few months.  I don't know how else to phrase it, but he went off the deep end.  He proclaimed JP2 spoke heresy,


    Oh geez louise! Again with the JP2 heresy. What a hypocrite. I gave two sources which explained how JPII made an error in his audience regarding Christ's descent into Hell. Quis was obsessed with accusing me of saying he spoke "heresy". I could care less. My only point was that his statement in the audience was erroneous. He likes to use this non sequitor as a sound byte. He got absolutely owned in that argument as I said. It probably still irritates him.

     
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    he argues against the writings of theologians who taught at the Angelicuм,


     :laugh1:  Didn't Rahner teach at the Angelicuм? Quis actually said that Catholics were morally bound to believe artificial birth control was ok in the 60's since a "consensus" of theologians says it was ok. Pure madness. He wouldn't even listen to Pastor Aeternus on this who usually disagrees with me. He ended up locking the thread since he was losing.

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    he attacks other forum members over their clothing - pants on girls, wigs on men, etc.


    Nope. Never attacked any other foum member. I argued the issues only. Only Quis attacks other forum members on a consistent basis. He and those who agree with him, have free reign over the ad hominems.

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    I thought he would snap out of it because a lot of people become "fired up" when they find tradition and have overwhelming zeal.


    Dude, I "found tradition" like 3 years ago. And for all but the past few weeks you had no problem. I guess my "zeal" was delayed!  :laugh1:

     
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    I remember reading every book TAN published that I could get my hands on.


    Wow! There must be some teribble TAN books in Quis' area...

     
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    I remember my throwing around "Modernist" to things it didn't even apply to.
     

    You still do.

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    I remember doing all kinds of crazy stuff that I regret now because it was, in two words, childish and stupid.


    Is your irregular marital situation one of them? Truly Quis, since I know you're reading this, please get this straightened out for your sake and your true wife's sake and your kids' sake. Even if you hate me, please get this straightened out.


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    And besides that, I was wrong most of the time because I hadn't digested the material or learned enough to be able to digest it.  The only thing that saved me, really, was listening to counter-arguments and seeing the point that others made.  After getting thrashed a few times I decided I better stop shooting off my mouth before I read enough to at least attempt to make a sound argument.  Socrates was considered wise because he knew that he didn't know.  I'm not wise, but at some point I figured out: "Hey, I don't know."  to enough of a point to at least stop being foolish.


    Unfortunately getting thrashed in debates isn't enough of an incentive for you any more. Now you simply ban your opponents when the counter-argument is better! I wish I had run into the younger Quis who could argue to discern truth and not feel the need to win at all costs. Notice how the insinuation of this story is that now Quis can be taught nothing and knows it all. I guess he is now a master. his theological sensei told him so.

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    People get sucked into this mindset of traditionalism that is a farce.  They start questioning other people's "traditionalism", they start questioning everything the Church does, they start using the lingo (Modernist, Quo Primum, wreckovation, etc.), they start "moving in traditionalist circles", etc.


    Anyone have a clue what he is talking about?

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    That is not what it is about.  Traditionalism is first and foremost about being Catholic.  It is not first and foremost about decrying Dignitatis Humanae; about decrying hairstyles, pants, or kilts; nor is it about smells and bells.


    Quis, you weren't even able to define Traditionalism! you locked my thread where I was asking posters to do so. If Traditionalism is just "being Catholic" then I suppose Mahonet is a Trad since he's a Baptized Catholic. So much mush.

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    It is none of that.  It is about being Catholic.  At first, it's about getting the hell out of a crazy Novus Ordo parish for most people.  Then it becomes about figuring out what the Church did before things went nuts after V2.  Then it becomes about studying theology, reading encyclicals, etc.


    Why is the NO parish "crazy" Quis? He never can answer this.

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    But some people stop there.  They get stuck.  They have all this material in their head that they can parrot, refer to, make great-sounding arguments with exotic words and Latin phrases on, but it's all empty.  It's dead.  It's worthless.


    Sounds like him!

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    One has to figure out what it all means.  And it means being Catholic.  And it means the Church is the Church.  


    That clears it up! I don't even think he knows what he's saying anymore.

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    It means we can't forget to close the Michael Davies book and open the Little Office instead.


    Or the Gospel section on divorce....

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    It means oftentimes the best solution is to shut up and pray instead of to rant and bray.  It means reading St. Therese Lisieux as much as we read St. Pope Pius X.


    Oh physician heal thyself...

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    Stevus, IMO, is stuck.  God willing, he'll get unstuck and clear his head of this notion of traditional Catholicism that he bases on his standards and the standards of those he agrees with and realizes there is more than one way to be Catholic - traditional or otherwise.


    Really Quis? So what makes someone a Traditional Catholic, eh? I'm still waiting for your answer.

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    And the first step is to realize what Socrates did - that we don't know.  None of us do.  The Church is in a state of confusion with the Smoke of Satan billowing out of every crevice in its creaking structure, and some of that smoke is creeping into traditional Catholicism as well.
     

    And marriages....

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    Because, if we're right as traditional Catholics, and I believe we are,


    Why, Quis?

     
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    Ol' Scratch isn't going to leave us be in our parishes with Rosaries and statues and Benedictions.  He's going to come after us as hard as he can including using our own prejudices, willfulness, etc. against us.


    Lusts for internet chicks..

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    When JP2 had to ask if the (near) previous Pope abrogated a Mass, that's the poster child of confusion.  Clarity in the Church will come with the sanctity of the members of the Church, and that's one of the real goals of traditional Catholicism - sanctity.


    Does sanctity include divorce and civil remarriage Quis?

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    He's going to go on a tirade about FE, and probably mostly about me and Vox.  He did the same thing about Fr. Z. when he was banned there.  If that makes him happy, fine.


    He wrote this after I made posts on another site defending myself. No tirade Quis. I simply have the same right to defend myself as you are giving your people the right o calumniate me. Not as much of a problem with Vox as far as the site, except she is a bit of a man-hater and uses ɧoɱosɛҳųαƖ avatars. But after finding out she left her husband to civilly marry you, yes that poses a problem. I pray both of you come to your senses for goodness sake.

    Do you realize what you are doing? Pontificating morality on a Treaditional Catholic Forum while doing this? It's really beyond the pale. I'll be praying you please come to your senses and end the hubris.

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    At the end of the day it's really sad to me.  I remember this guy struggling to do the right thing for Christ, and I wonder what happened to this guy.

    Very, very sad.


    Quis I still struggle to do the right thing for Christ. I will pray that someday you will too. Very, very sad indeed, my friend. Very sad.

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    For Fish Eater Lurkers: The Official "Stevus" Thread Response
    « Reply #4 on: March 02, 2009, 07:39:33 PM »
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  • Stevus, I'm pretty sure you were banned for continually dogging HK and ONeill about having long hair, or a wig of long hair.  I personally did not agree with your assertions, but that is beside the point.

    Many people disagreed with you, some were jerks about it, others made well-thought rebuttals, others, myself included, just ignored it all because it was tiresome.

    I'm not saying you should/should not have been banned.  If I had a forum, and frankly, I'd rather eat glass, I would not have banned you for such behavior.  What I would have done would be to continually work on you, and do my best to make you desist such behavior.  But I would have done it with kindness rather than escalating the argument.  This would be a very time-consuming process, and that might be why other forum owners resort to mass banning instead.

    I really like HK, and he is a well-liked poster I don't think an interest in period clothing = queerness like you do.  Your constant attacks on him grew tiresome and they also contained many ad hominems which are against forum rules.  Both Vox and Quis have a history of banning people whom they see as threatening to their favorite posters.  I wouldn't do the same, but I'm not going to judge them for it.  Maybe it's the best they can do to try and keep the peace.  Maybe it's the Italian in them.


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    « Reply #5 on: March 02, 2009, 07:42:43 PM »
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    « Reply #6 on: March 03, 2009, 08:06:50 AM »
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    Stevus, I'm pretty sure you were banned for continually dogging HK and ONeill about having long hair, or a wig of long hair.  I personally did not agree with your assertions, but that is beside the point.


    I don't think so. There was a couple threads going on that. Half the time I was making jokes. Quis wrote me and was very polite and just said his advice, and I could take it or leave it, would be to stop the back and forth because it was upsetting LaRoza. I thanked him and said that's fine. I had stopped contributing seriously to the thread at that point. I apologized if I offended LaRoza and we made up. All was well. HK too.


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    I'm not saying you should/should not have been banned.  If I had a forum, and frankly, I'd rather eat glass, I would not have banned you for such behavior.  What I would have done would be to continually work on you, and do my best to make you desist such behavior.  But I would have done it with kindness rather than escalating the argument.  This would be a very time-consuming process, and that might be why other forum owners resort to mass banning instead.


    Yeah, but it wouldn't have taken that. All he had to do was e-mail me like before and just say hey I don't like x,y,z on the forum, want to keep you here but if you want to stay please stop x,y,z, I would have. I did before when it was just "advice", not sure what made him think I wouldn't respond again. Oh well.

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    I really like HK, and he is a well-liked poster I don't think an interest in period clothing = queerness like you do.


    Do you know that queer means odd or weird? ;)

    Seriously, I'm not saying he's ɧoɱosɛҳųαƖ. Only God knows. I am saying that he displays feminine qualities, interests, and yes sometimes attire. For someone in the Army I would think he'd want to lay off. I've tried to impress the Catholic notions of masculine and feminine, but he simply retreats into giving some irrelevant counter example. Oh well. In any case, I stopped posting about HK's avatars a long time ago. I think you are getting confused with what I wrote on AQ. There I was just summing up the problems with the site, of which his behavior was one.

     
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    Your constant attacks on him grew tiresome and they also contained many ad hominems which are against forum rules.


    You are getting mixed up what I wrote on FE with AQ. On FE, I never engaged in ad hominems. I did discuss his use of a wig where he looked like a female in an avatar. Quis had no problem with that thread, didn't lock it, etc. And other posters called him some pretty viscious names. I didn't.

     
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    Both Vox and Quis have a history of banning people whom they see as threatening to their favorite posters.


    Yeah, but I was not banned for the LaRoza or HK threads. Not at all. I was banned for about 3 threads where Quis and I had theological debates. That's the key. It was his frustration in these debates that lead to the ban and the lack of any communication before or after. He was angry with me personally. If it had been over HK or LaRoza he would have just e-mailed me a warning.

    See what I mean?

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    I wouldn't do the same, but I'm not going to judge them for it.  Maybe it's the best they can do to try and keep the peace.  Maybe it's the Italian in them.


    Well Vox to my knowledge had no role. I do agree a Sicilian temper may have had a LOT to do with it. ;)

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    « Reply #7 on: March 03, 2009, 10:28:24 AM »
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  • I really didn't intend to get into this, but here goes (this is only my uninformed opinion, but I think it's a good opinion):

    What you don't seem to understand is that stuff like this thread is EXACTLY why you got banned.  You can be confrontative and combative.  You don't back down, even when the argument doesn't matter.  You fight.

    A messageboard is a discussion forum.  And when a person refuses to discuss and turns everything into a major battle, the moderators have to move along the problem.  It's not a matter of THK's odd interests or ONeill's interest in long hair.  It's not even about allegations of neoconism or whatever.  It's because you were acting like a jerk.

    There are many people who disagree with Quis, there are people who push their limits on the board (I recognize that I am one of the limit pushers), there are people who test the outer edges of discussion.  But when the conversations turn mean, mods gotta move the problem out.

    Maybe you didn't intend to be a jerk.  Nonetheless, you were.

    Give it up, man.  Find a new hobby other than Catholic messageboards.  Take up birdwatching or racquetball or something.  You need a little time-out.
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  • By the way, hello, CathInfo.  Thanks for letting me on your board.  :smile:
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    « Reply #9 on: March 03, 2009, 11:38:25 AM »
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    What you don't seem to understand is that stuff like this thread is EXACTLY why you got banned.  You can be confrontative and combative.  You don't back down, even when the argument doesn't matter.  You fight.


    This thread is not representative of my posts on FishEaters. I admit I definitely took a tougher tone here due to the more liberal rules allowing me to express myself, as well as the running calumny thread which needed a response.

    "Confrontative" (is that a word?) ;) and combative are subjective. You know that there are posters on that board just as "combative" who are allowed to post. They just hold certain positions and aren't "combative" towards site owners. ;) And that's fine, I'm just telling it like it is.

    Also it goes both ways. If the argument "doesn't matter" then the person on the pther side arguing with me is not "backing down" either are they? Yet they are not banned. And whether an argument matters is subjective as well, is it not?


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    A messageboard is a discussion forum.  And when a person refuses to discuss and turns everything into a major battle, the moderators have to move along the problem.


    This is your opinion. What "major battles" were there? There was a thread on HK's avatar (which enough people agreed with me to the point where he changed it). We then made up and were ok.

    With LaRoza I gave my comments on long hair and he was absolutely relentless in responding to my posts with a lot of force. I simply gave my opinions. We eventually had a truce as well.

    It's important to note that these threads were not locked and it's not the reason I got banned. Those threads were a while back and were over with.


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    It's not a matter of THK's odd interests or ONeill's interest in long hair.  It's not even about allegations of neoconism or whatever.  It's because you were acting like a jerk.


    Again your opinion. You may say I'm a jerk for the things I said on AQ and here, but on FE there were many who did not think that at all. In fact a lot of people who argued with me were just as "jerky" if not more so. Just take a look at some of Quis' sarcasm and personal shots during our debates. I was careful to stick to the issues. Go ahead and look up the JPII "descent into Hell" thread and the "God saves souls from Hell" thread. Read them well and look at Quis' tone and my own. I think you'll see the one getting hot under the collar was not me.

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    There are many people who disagree with Quis, there are people who push their limits on the board (I recognize that I am one of the limit pushers), there are people who test the outer edges of discussion.  But when the conversations turn mean, mods gotta move the problem out.


    But what is "mean"? It is in the eye of the beholder. And if a discussion turns mean you lock it. The facts here are that nothing I did was a problem until Quis and I started debating. He banned me for reasons rising out of those debates. I think he did it out of anger and frustration with me personally.

    As I told you he wrote me previously cordially regarding the LaRoza thread, just giving advice saying it was not a formal warning. I cordially responded and said I understood his point and I just made a truce with LaRoza and let it be. Later LaRoza is the one who took jabs at me with the shaved face = feminine shots, but it never really escalated after that.

    Anyway the e-mail implies that if I'm pushing any boundaries a formal warning would be forthcoming. One I never got. I got no warning, no explanation, just a form e-mail saying I'm banned, not welcome, and threatening to suedif I set foot in there.

    If I were a common troll with 10 posts to my name, no problem. But all I'm saying is have some class. You are holding yourself out as an example of Traditional Catholicism owning a forum and you're going to deny the least courtesy of Christian Charity to a 3 year 5,000 + poster who you've had success and cordial e-mail correspondence with in the past?

    There's only one answer and it has to do with the fact he was personally angry at me individually as a result of the debates. Otherwise, if he had a cooler head, he would have shot me an e-mail. I'm just asking for common courtesy here. It's really not much to ask for.

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    Maybe you didn't intend to be a jerk.  Nonetheless, you were.


    In your mind. I can name about 100 jerks posting on that board right now. Believe me, that wasn't it. It's probably why you would have liked to see me banned, but it wasn't it. ;)

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    Give it up, man.  Find a new hobby other than Catholic messageboards.  Take up birdwatching or racquetball or something.  You need a little time-out.


    And I'm the jerk!?  :laugh1:

    I personally think you should take a break, my friend. You seem to use the board as a social site and seem more interested in everyday secular chatting about every day things and personalities.

    A discussion forum, especially a Trad one, is about ideas and Traditional Catholicism. It seems your focus on the board was making smart comments and trying to be funny. Perhaps a Iedy board would be more your game. I really didn't see you participating heavily in any intellectual discussion requiring hevy lifting.

    When people discuss important issues with strong opinions, sometimes there are some sparks. The forum I was debating Quis in was DESIGNED by him to allow for more jabs and mixing it up. It seems he allowed for the heat to be turned up but then couldn't stand it. Bottom line is that I violated no rule as he admitted.

    If people read evil intent into my words, I can't help that. I say what the words read and no more. If people would simply respond to my questions/ statements at face value and not try to assume motivations and intentions there would be no problem. The fact is I was colored in your mind, and other's minds as an evil caricature based on yours (and others) assumptions behind the motivations of my questions.

    In any case good luck to you WRC. As you tend not to engage in the big battles and keep it light, you should be safe to post your humor there in perpetuity. Sort of like the forum jester.

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  • It looks like my presence here has upped the lurker rate to an all time high!

    Chant, do I get some bonus points for that? ;) j/k


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  • Let's see the standard the forum owner set regarding acceptable tone in discussions there and how to treat others.

    Distinguish his tone with the Iranian girl he criticizes below.

    (I also notice Rex was seemingly banned, most likely for standing up for the Iranian girl, as CMM was banned standing up for Gabrielle. Definite pattern. I wonder why Quis is so hard on women posters?)

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    I think you are going to hard on her. Remember, on numerous occasions, she mentioned that she suffers from mental illness. I really don't think she is on the road to Hell. Can you blame her for not being baptized?



    Am I being too hard on her?  She shouldn't think so if she thinks people should be held to the rigors and morals she proposes.  I am acting in the way she apparently wants me to act.  I am arguing for the very letter of Catholic teaching.  I am holding her to a standard she apparently wants me to hold others to.  Realize this: she is not even a formal Catechumen and has the audacity to criticize and make judgments upon Mother Church.

    I am not sure why you bring up mental illness. Mental illness does not make something "OK", it merely qualifies the proper punishment.  Since Christ is the final judge of heretics, apostates, etc., He is the one who will take into account mental illness.  I am not punishing in any sense.  I am merely doing what other forum members do all the time, and seem to want me to do.  I am taking someone to task for what I perceive as their failings.

    Yes, in a sense, I can blame her for not being baptized based on what has been said.  According to what has been said, she has access to valid baptism, but refuses it because it will be done by what she considers to be "heretics".  Either she thinks it would be invalid, a belief which is heretical, or she is waiting for the "perfect priest" to do it, which is not necessary.  Baptism is necessary for salvation.  If not by water, then by Blood or Desire, and both of those presuppose that by water is not available.  She has the formal Sacrament available but chooses not to partake of it.  She is in grave spiritual danger.  And even if she were baptized, the way she expresses her opinions, which are sometimes erroneous, as Catholic teaching is a cause of scandal to others.

    Any mortal sin puts us on the road to hell, doesn't it?  Well, if she ignores the teaching of the Church with regard to the necessity of baptism, and the validity of baptism even at the hands of a heretic or non-Catholic, isn't she objectively in a state of grave spiritual danger?

    I find all this rather ironic.

    Recently, an article was posted where the author of the article was a knucklehead who writes something about St. Mike using the f-word and various other questionable descriptions.  People want the post removed, they chastize the poster, they call the author names, etc.  They completely ignore the fact that the guy who wrote it wasn't even Catholic, admits he isn't religious, yet there is some level of truth and goodwill in what he wrote if the childish profanities are looked beyond.  They're too busy being offended and think I'm being too easy.

    Now here is someone who is not a Catholic and criticizing elements of the Church as being heretical.  She is criticizing Catholics here as not being good Catholics.  She is criticizing me for being "lax" with regard to the theology on the forum.  So, I decide not to be "lax".  I'll give her what she wants.

    When am I being too hard and when am I being too easy on people?  What is the criteria I should apply?  It seems to me that people want me to be easy on people they agree with and hard on people they disagree with.  Is that just?

    Honestly, I'm burned out by the hypocrisy I see here on a daily basis.  People screaming for the blood of others, then hurt or offended when their own transgressions are pointed out to them.

    I guess people think Vox and I are idiots and don't know anything about theology or being Catholic.  That's actually amusing considering Vox wrote all the webpages herself, and I attended Catholic schools for sixteen years, took advanced theology classes, and even won an award in college for a theological paper.

    We turn a blind eye to a lot of stuff because that is the appropriate response in most cases.  It's not that we don't see the error, or the mistake, or the misunderstanding.  It's that bringing out the boot is not the way to fix the problem or help someone come to Christ.  Attacking someone's "Catholicity" or demanding they submit to Catholic teaching (especially a non-authoritative personal interpretation of Catholic teaching) won't fix most problems, either.

    Let's do an experiment.  Let's say I take this approach:

    Those who want strict authoritative commentary from me will receive it, especially upon themselves.  Those who show charity and understanding towards others will receive the same from me.

    Can you argue that the approach is unjust?  I would hope not.  Yet, it seems something is unsettling with that approach to the sensus Catholicus.  What is it exactly that is unsettling about that type of approach?

    I would argue that what is unsettling about that type of approach is that we know by our Catholic Senses that it will not bring people closer to Christ; in fact, it will turn people away from Christ.

    And that's my point.  What some would view as "lax" on my part is because to be "not lax" would cause more damage to people in many cases.

    Back to your question:  Am I being too hard on her?

    Yes, of course I am.  Not in the legal sense of the term, because everything I said is true, but in the sense of doing what is appropriate to draw someone closer to Christ.

    But she is too hard on others, and that is the point I am making.



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    thanks for so many kind words and prayers.

    now listen to my reasons:! I asked a catholic apologist on the web about being baptized by a heretic layman he said that a private baptism should be given only in the case of necessity.and I think it is summa theologica that says it is sinful sometimes for a layman to baptize though it will be valid.

    the other point do not think that I have left a hard religion in favor of an easy one not at all.you all know that every catholic is a solider,

    and that it is very hard sometimes.but a woman in islam is not a soldier(I mean a spiritual one) her only duty is to give birth to men to male children,and feed them.you catholics,you woman catholics do you have a duty to acquire virtues and adrorn your soul with them?YES of course.but in islam it is not a case a woman's sanctity is to sit before a miror and adorn her face with "Kezab","vasmah" etc. then wear sth beautiful and go to her man(who is a soldier of allah) and say "hello my master well come back home" and it is all .to be nobody just a sex object (albeit in a so called lawful marriage)is very easy. if I wanted ease I would not risk my life and choose catholicism.

    why ?why I choose christianity?because I wanted to worship some one who gazes upon my soul and heart not upon my womb and chest.

    if you want you can read the history of shiite female saints.you will see that many of that women are considered holy just because their sons and husbands were imams.not because they were holy themselves.

    the other point:this government does not kill maidens so before giving capital punishment to a girl they rape her in the prison(they call it marriage themselves),and although I want to be cathechized the priest is always abscent or busy or retired (people are now waiting for a new one ) I am waiting till all the traces of my past faith is wiped from my mind.and although I know that procliming my faith and shedding of blood is very good I cannot accept the risk of being raped.

    my main reason for leaving however is that this forum is mainly for married and soon to be married people.I did not find sth about my own vocation here.the worst thing:there are some members who confess being an unwed mother or having divorced which are against the bible and grave sins





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    « Reply #12 on: March 03, 2009, 12:05:58 PM »
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  • *sigh*

    The defense rests.

    FWIW, I agree with you that I approach FE as a social site.  My interest in tradtition is primarily a cultural one.  I don't know many trads personally, it is interesting to see how people relate to others in the granfalloon.  The theology questions get over my head-- which is to be expected, I guess.  I went to Catholic school; I don't know anything about theology.  And frankly, I have no interest in fighting 50 year old battles.  They are, mostly, other peoples' battles.  Not mine.  I do have an interest in how people live the Faith on a day-to-day basis; how tradition informs their worldview; how tradition colors their social interactions; how Catholicism influences their family/work/social life.

    Debates over whether Russia was properly consecrated?  ZZZzzzZZZzzz...  IMHO, that's looking through the wong end of the kaleidoscope. (and how would we know anyway?!!) Likewise debates over subsistience, the bazillionth thread about who's dissing +Williamson or the particulars of Eastern Rite first Holy Communion as they compare to the Latin Rite.  I respect other people's right to share their opinions, but reserve the right to think that some opinions are frivilous malarky.

    I don't engage in the big battles because all those battles were already fought by someone else.  WhooptyDamnDoo. Tradition is not about arguing on the internet (believe it or not).
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    (I also notice Rex was seemingly banned, most likely for standing up for the Iranian girl, as CMM was banned standing up for Gabrielle. Definite pattern. I wonder why Quis is so hard on women posters?)


    Rex Announced that he lost his faith and deleted himself.  He is on other fora now.
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    the worst thing:there are some members who confess ... having divorced which [is]
     against the bible and [a] grave sin