well said, Matto
of note, I had a friend since high school that killed himself 2-3 yrs ago.he came "out" in 1994, though looking back, despite his straight dating life, he was showing feminate signs, though thought it was due to being raised primarliy by women.
He told me that many queers hype up the acting and language, many are not as effiminate as they act, they are sorta doing it a a means of "in yo face".
He got in the last few months very depresed, worn down and had lossof voice and other things going on that no MD could figure out, was sickly.....
I attribute it to soul-sickness, manifesting in his physical and mental health.