Author Topic: An Age impediment for Catholic Marriage? (Read 5843 times)

Telesphorus · « **Reply #45 on:** May 27, 2010, 01:37:09 PM »

Quote from: Dawn

She then went on to say that though he is about 20 years older in 4 years she will be 20. And, she said that would be a good age to get married.
Quote

I am curious, why does she think waiting 4 years is a good idea?

The man will be 40 by then. Maybe waiting two years, but four?

Dawn · « **Reply #46 on:** May 27, 2010, 03:29:20 PM »

Do not know. May happen in two years at that. This person would make certain that my daughter stays a True Catholic, they would have a Catholic home with prayers. I am at peace if I think my daughter would be taken care of by this gentlman. Reminds me of St. Therese's parents.

dabollig · « **Reply #47 on:** May 29, 2010, 04:05:20 PM »

Wow, Lots to say about this topic, here I go. I remember at the ripe age of 15 thinking I was mature and best suited to be married at that time. I was very smart not to engage in high school relationships that were more adult oriented so to speak. When I finished high school, I took my adult relationships very seriously and my goal during the courtship was purely to do what I had to do in order to get married. There is of course nothing wrong with this but I took it in a wrong path meaning I was going to change the other party and his views about religion. He was protestant and I was Catholic. He wanted birth control and triplets and I wanted unending children, clearly it was never going to work out. I can look back now and say he did the right thing to break up the relationship. We really cared about eachother but even love cant change a person. Anyway fast forward, I met a man who was baptized Catholic and for as long as he wanted he was in our relationship. Here again the world stepped in to cause trouble. When everyone let him know that it was uncool to have so many children he walked out to keep and save face. Problem here is he backed out on God too and now has no blessing with him, his life is sad to say the least. What happened to the enlightened Catholic, boy or girl? I think true education anything that is used for God's purpose is essential to any Catholic child. I wish I had more education before I married. But I do think if a woman chooses marriage she should be prepared to drop her life to care for children not because it is a horrible thing but because children demand so much time and care. I couldnt imagine having a career and birthing kids. Now my birthing years are behind me I am greatfully educating myself and with full intention to serve the Lord with these gifts. When I was a teen I ad a great zeal for marriage and children, I dont have it any more and I think it is a gift to keep young people from trouble. I know my time is spent with my kids and I dont get out into trouble because of it. Plus it is great if you know you have pergatory time coming, which I do. God Bless You all! :jumping2:

parentsfortruth · « **Reply #48 on:** May 29, 2010, 08:20:16 PM »

It's almost impossible to successfully walk into a relationship wanting to change a person.

One thing I made up my mind about (thank God) when I was about 15 years old, I was going to marry a traditional Catholic no matter what. That was it. I was not going to be arguing with my in-laws about the Church, that was for sure. So I did.

Things aren't perfect all the time.

But I don't have a religious difference with him, which would have made everything 10000000000 times more difficult.

People that get into relationships with non-Catholics are in for a tremendous heartache. The first five to seven years of marriage, believe me, are a time of adjustment, and pain (in most cases.) Add the religious difference in there, and the throw-away attitude of most protestants towards marriage, and you have a failure.

I've been married 12 years, and with lots of prayers, we are doing great. Better than ever.

Advise from a veteran mother: Never ever marry a non-Catholic. Don't marry one even if they promise to convert! Marry them AFTER they convert, and never before, if you're intent on marrying a non-Catholic. There are enough problems in a Catholic marriage, that you don't want to add those kind of problems. It breaks up sooo many marriages, and Traditional Catholics should know better by now, that marrying a non-Catholic is a very bad idea.

Joseph de Maistre · « **Reply #49 on:** May 29, 2010, 08:28:26 PM »

Our society discourages marriage and forces many young people into sin. St. Paul tells us to be married if the single life causes us to sin in this regard. I agree - and society should support young people who wish to be married at 18 or after graduating college.