This is my first post on this forum and website. I would like to open up with a prayer from Psalms 5:1-3
"Give ear to my words, O Lord, consider mediation. Give heed to the voice of my cry, my King and my God, for You I will pray. My voice You shall hear in the morning, O Lord; in the morning I will direct it to You, and I will look up."
Greeting everyone! My name is Alex and I am currently going through a lot of currently in my life lately and to make a long story short, I will explain my current situation and I'm all ears to responses and ask for prayers and guidance during my transgressions. To start off I am a father of a 6 year old boy and recently I found out that my wife is an adulterer and had a child with another man during my 8 years of marriage. At this time I am going through a rough divorce but kept my faith in God for guidance and help. One of the main things I miss from being married is loves true divine. Shortly, after I've discovered that my wife had the affair, I went on several dating programs and none of them were successful, so I finally tried one more "meeting new people" programs. Shortly, after using it, I did meet new people. But, the facade behind meeting people online are the chances they aren't who they appear. So, at the last moment I decided to delete this program as a whole and just take a break from trying to meet new people and date new people. Before I deleted this program, there was a virtual wall where you can write simple messages and I wrote "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder." As soon as I wrote that, I had someone respond to me. It was this beautiful young girl that I couldn't believe it to be true, until we started chatting. Fast forward a couple of months, we have been chatting, exchanging pictures of ourselves (nothing explicit) and even chatting on the phone briefly. Throughout this time I had discovered she is a Jehovah's Witness and I am a Catholic. This is where I thought such a great relationship would blossom, however I know its going to be an up hill challenge, since JW think everyone out of their religion is working for the devil. This is a challenge that I would accept and fight for.
I reject the false doctrines of Jehovah Witnesses and did research on their cult, but I cannot tell her all the things I know about how awful her religion is because I don't want to scare her away or even worse have her stop talking to me as a whole. I pray to God to deliver his Holy Spirit through her to help her reach out to me more open minded and even better, help her convert her away from JW. If and once we live together, I plan on informing her about her religion, when the time is right.
I know that God speaks through us with parables and each time I see a sign, I either take a picture or I remember it and discuss it with her (as well as her, but I don't say that God is doing this for us, because again I don't want rush things with her, especially religion differences).
Since her religion is based of more of mind control and tolerance not to disobey her congregation, I know that its going to be more challenging. For an example, she thinks I am coming off to her too strong, when in fact I know that I am not. She say's that she hasn't felt this love that we have before and I know its pure because she has a clean soul. Her emotions are new to her, which in part might make her a little confused and angry because she is experiencing loves true diving and its unconditioned. She even stated to me that she wouldn't mind being "disfellowshipped" to be with me (which means a lot because that statement alone means she loves me whole heartily).
A good example is, I sent her flowers last week and she got mad at me because her parents obviously found out and she said she wasn't ready to tell her father (who happens to be an elder). I didn't attach my name to it, but I did have the following message on it (from First Corinthians 12:4-8):
“Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”
Maybe I shouldn't have sent the flowers, but I did it out of selflessness. She said she want's a little space now because she might of gotten in trouble and is mad at me (but being mad is only temporary).
I have been closer to my faith with God since I met her and I have given up a lot of sinful acts that I once did prior. I look out for Gods signs daily and praying that I can finally be with her. God has me on a mission with her and only I and her can discover it. Once we finally are together in person, we can see if this feeling is real or just a fantasy. I personally think its real. But, time will tell.
So what I ask from everyone is, is there anyone else who has been in this situation and what was their actions they took to help make their loved one successfully be together? I would ask for anyone to help pray for me in this situation to have her successfully break her chains from her cult religion.