Another gem of divine wisdom from Fr. Faber's Spiritual Conferences, this one being on the importance of kindness. It's certainly possible to be charitable, but unkind, in our zeal which turns others away from the Truth. I highly recommend reading the four conferences Fr. Faber has on the subject, as kindness is the one virtue that is cast aside in our willingness to defend the Faith. I can think of recent examples in my own actions, certainly.

But, while it [kindness] thus ministers to Him as Creator, it is no less energetic and successful in preparing and enlarging His ways as Saviour. It is constantly winning strayed souls back to Him, opening hearts that seemed obstinately closed, enlightening minds that had been wilfully darkened, skilfully throwing the succours of hope into strongholds that were on the point of capitulating to despair, lifting endeavour from low to high, from high to higher, from higher to highest. Everywhere kindness is the best pioneer of the Precious Blood. We often begin our own repentance by acts of kindness, or through them. Probably the majority of repentances have begun in the reception of acts of kindness, which, if not unexpected, touched men by the sense of their being so undeserved. Doubtless the terrors of the Lord are often the beginning of that wisdom, which we name conversion; but men must be frightened in a land way, or the fright will only make them unbelievers. Kindness has converted more sinners than either zeal, eloquence, or learning; and these three last have never converted any one, unless they were kind also. In short, kindness makes us as Gods to each other. Yet, while it lifts us so high, it sweetly keeps us low. For the continual sense, which a kind heart has, of its own need of kindness, keeps it humble. There are no hearts to which kindness is so indispensable, as those that are exuberantly kind themselves.
p.6-7

Wow, this part really struck me toward the end of the conference:

It [kindness] reconciles worldly men to religious people; and really, however contemptible worldly men are in themselves, they have souls to save, and it were much to be wished that devout persons would make their devotion a little less angular and aggressive to worldly people, provided they can do so without lowering practice or conceding principle. Devout people are, as a class, the least kind of all classes. This is a scandalous thing to say; but the scandal of the fact is so much greater than the scandal of acknowledging it, that I will brave this last, for the sake of a greater good. Religious people are an unkindly lot. Poor human nature cannot do everything; and kindness is too often left uncultivated, because men do not sufficiently under stand its value. Men may be charitable, yet not kind; merciful, yet not kind; self-denying, yet not kind. If they would add a little common kindness to their uncommon graces, they would convert ten where they now only abate the prejudices of one.
p. 17

100 thumbs up!!!

I have friends and family members who left "Tradition" because people were unkind.

It's no excuse but it's definitely a problem.

Love is patient.  Love is kind...

Yes, he's really just unpacking what St. Paul already preached:
"Charity is patient, is kind: charity envieth not, dealeth not perversely; is not puffed up;"
[1 Corinthians 13:4]

I've been grieved by this a lot lately myself, not only by the actions of others, but of my own expression of this same hostile, unkind behavior I've received from other Trads.

How can one evangelize effectively if you can't make things sweet and welcoming? Our Lord is all of those things, just look at His Sacred Heart, that is One Who is patient, kind, and amiable, but firm in His Truth.

Reading Fr. Faber's writings on this have been very eye-opening.