Author Topic: Conquering pornography (Read 4786 times)

spouse of Jesus · « **Reply #20 on:** June 30, 2009, 02:33:35 AM »

Quote from: Raoul76

Wait a second... Spouse, if I may ask, why did you read this?

I DID write a disclaimer saying not to read the post unless you were struggling with an addiction to HARDCORE pornography.
I figured ( wrongly ) that if they already had the problem there was little left to lose by following my suggestions.

You are not struggling with this, though.

I did not read the whole of article! I was just concerned about some of my family members who have this habbit.

Alex · « **Reply #21 on:** June 30, 2009, 02:36:56 AM »

Do you think a man should not get married if he has an addiction to pornography? I believe that a man must stay single until he overcomes this sin because, if he is still addicted, he will do it when he is married and he would add the sin of adultery to his sin of pornography. Of course, this means that some addicts will never be able to get married since their porno addiction will be a lifelong habit.

Alex · « **Reply #22 on:** June 30, 2009, 02:40:18 AM »

I know this guy who, as a mere baby showed the signs of one who would get addicted to porn or sɛҳuąƖ sins in his life. For him, I believe it will be even more difficult to overcome this sin than it is for the normal man addicted to porn.

Raoul76 · « **Reply #23 on:** June 30, 2009, 02:57:26 AM »

Thank you for your mercy, Gladius. You not only corrected me for the original post but for the way I dragged my mother into it to take some of the heat off of myself, when it is myself alone who deserves all the blame.

I am not on a winning streak in this thread and you are on top of it every step of the way. Again, thank you for your mercy, and may God continue to pour graces upon you.

P.S. Alex, when I was a child, and I mean at five or six years of age, the devil filled my head with unclean images.

I was just about to describe those images but caught myself... See, I'm learning! Must not wallow -- must not wallow -- must not wallow --

Yes, I absolutely think you should conquer this addiction before getting married, and not just for the reasons you state. Another reason is that someone in thrall to pornography has a twisted conception of beauty and what makes an attractive female. He is not seeing clearly or with the eyes of faith. This means he will be prone to marry someone who he is attracted to physically rather than spiritually.

This is why the devil spreads pornography, not only to get us to sin, but to warp our minds in many other ways, so that we are only attracted to evil. Look around you at the "days of Noah" we're in and you'll see what I mean. Very few are with the mate they should be with, because they choose each other based on lust and not love of God.

St Jude Thaddeus · « **Reply #24 on:** July 01, 2009, 12:31:19 AM »

Quote from: Raoul76

St. Jude, thanks for defending me, but I think I was wrong.

You're welcome! Perhaps your description was a little too explicit but although I was able to give up smoking "cold turkey," with other bad habits I have had to make progress by steps. Ingrained behavior patterns can take quite a while to eliminate.

When my fervor for the Church returned after many years of lukewarmness and rebellion, I immediately resolved to abandon all sin and to spend the rest of my life in penance. I encountered two obstacles in my path. Number one, although my repentance for past sins was sincere, I still succuмbed to temptations to commit them again or at least remember them fondly, indicating a lack of appropriate horror for them. Number two, I had been away from the Traditional Church for so long that I had forgotten what some of the sins were, or tended to gloss over my own sinful actions and not recognize them for the evil that they were.

It has been six years since I began to return to the fullness of Our Faith and I am still struggling. I believe this is not unusual for those of us who have fallen badly at some time in the past. Our nostalgia for the gutter sometimes leads us to seek it out again. I wish I could stop offending God and I am heartily sorry for my offenses but I have still not achieved much holiness. I thank Our Mother Church for providing us with the Sacrament of Penance so that we can be reconciled again with Her even though as weak and iniquitous beings we cannot give any assurance that we will never again fall.

It seems that our progress is often slow and halting.

I would like to ask anyone reading this their opinion of Alcoholics Anonymous. I do not suffer from that vice thanks be to God but I know that even in the pre-V2 days some priests were members. Is it compatible with Our Faith?