Author Topic: Manners civility (Read 1007 times)

MariaCatherine · « **on:** May 23, 2014, 09:05:29 PM »

I found Tradition in Action's 'A Manual of Civility' very informative and helpful.

http://www.traditioninaction.org/Cultural/A013cpManualCivility_Intro.htm

I'm interested in more on the same subject. If anyone has any suggestions, or would like to share some advice or opinions on the subject, that would be very much appreciated.

(The thread title should be 'Manners / civility')

MariaCatherine · « **Reply #1 on:** May 25, 2014, 10:33:20 AM »

Here is something I've often wondered about. When there isn't enough room for a couple to walk side by side, should the man walk in front of the lady, or behind her? I think he should walk behind her, so as to be able to see that she's safe. In any processions I've seen, it seems the lowest ranks are in the front, with the highest at the end. But at church I often see the ladies walking behind their husbands. Does anyone know if there is a right way?

Mama ChaCha · « **Reply #2 on:** May 25, 2014, 11:36:49 AM »

As in etiquette and decorum, a man should allow a lady to go ahead, except in crowded areas where he should walk behind and to her left, using his left arm to open her way and his voice to clear others from her path. It is only in rare circuмstances that a woman should follow behind a man, as in when entering dangerous terrain. In that case, she should hold his shoulder with her dominant hand to avoid falling. If a woman is wearing high heels or some other wobbly shoes unstable terrain, the man should do his best to walk beside her and support her on whichever side is his dominant hand.

Im referencing a 1931 edition of etiquette and decorum.

Alan · « **Reply #3 on:** May 26, 2014, 07:01:41 PM »

It's an interesting book. I would like to read it too.

MariaCatherine · « **Reply #4 on:** May 31, 2014, 11:45:16 AM »

Another question I have on this subject is how to behave when people around us are uncivil. I don't mean our children, of course. I mean people over whom we have no authority, and therefore no right to correct - for example, strangers who ask us directions, or neighbors, or other people's children when they're not in our homes.

I guess that as long as they're only being uncivil and not sinning, and they're not close enough to us that we'd have a right or duty to correct them, then it's best not to let it show that we're offended. But I have the idea in my head that if I don't show offense, I'm showing approval of their behavior. I have a huge problem with this.