Author Topic: Barmitzpha (Read 1634 times)

catherinemary · « **on:** August 13, 2010, 06:40:13 PM »

Hi Everyone,

My son's good friend is Jєωιѕн and we are invited to his barmitzpha (i have no idea how to spell it sorry). I have made the decision not to go to the actual ceremony but just to the reception after. I am a new traditional catholic (used to be novus ordo) and I didn't think it would be right if we were witnesses at this ceremony. Am I making the right decision or is this considered rude?? Help! thanks! :confused1:

Dulcamara · « **Reply #1 on:** August 13, 2010, 09:47:52 PM »

At the very least, we cannot attend "other-religious" ceremonies or worship or churches. So that much is pretty certain. Even receptions don't sit right with me, but... I'm a bit fuzzy about this kind of thing.

MyrnaM · « **Reply #2 on:** August 13, 2010, 10:16:43 PM »

Yes, in the strict sense even the reception is not the best idea, but not sure if it is a sin. When In doubt ask your priest.

Elizabeth · « **Reply #3 on:** August 14, 2010, 09:28:51 AM »

The whole thing might remind you of the Novus Ordo.

catherinemary · « **Reply #4 on:** August 14, 2010, 06:38:04 PM »

Ha! Good one Elizabeth! :roll-laugh2:
We ended up just going to just the reception afterwards, and had a great time. I even danced when they did Hava Nagila! Forgive me Father for I have sinned, I was Jєωιѕн for an afternoon. :roll-laugh2:

Agobard · « **Reply #5 on:** August 14, 2010, 07:22:13 PM »

Cheryl · « **Reply #6 on:** August 14, 2010, 07:55:30 PM »

Agobard, a very profound post, could you elaborate?

Agobard · « **Reply #7 on:** August 14, 2010, 08:13:01 PM »

Cheryl · « **Reply #8 on:** August 14, 2010, 09:02:17 PM »

I guess you've said all you have to say.

Sigismund · « **Reply #9 on:** August 15, 2010, 12:04:23 PM »

According to traditional practice, can't you go due t o your friendship, as you would to a wedding or funeral, as long as you attend only passively, with no active participation in the service?

MyrnaM · « **Reply #10 on:** August 15, 2010, 02:49:47 PM »

They way it was taught to me was, only if it was a very close relative, not just friends, and even with that you must get permission from your priest. You just can't assume permission.