I agree with much of what JayneK said, and I'll admit it sounds tempting, but Mark79 has forced my hand.
First of all, I didn't slam Mark a bunch after he was banned and couldn't respond. I gave the reasons for the ban (which are always going to be somewhat negative) but it was all stuff I told him to his face while he still had posting rights here. And I did acknowledge all his good points as well -- in the same breath as giving the reasons for his banning.
On principle, I have to stick to my guns now, because Mark79 made it personal. He basically gave me an ultimatum "him or me". He wasn't respectful about it. He gave me no opportunity to save face as far as my authority goes.
If I ban poche and invite Mark79 back, then Mark79 would win the power dispute in a very public manner. I can't have that. It would OPEN THE FLOODGATES for every other choleric and wannabe-moderator to start threads "We must ban _____" and there would be no end of it.
As a matter of fact, I have no guarantee that Mark79 himself wouldn't find another target to obsess over and complain about. He would effectively become the moderator of the forum.
Sorry, I can't have that. To avoid degenerating into a chaotic mess of politics and intrigue, CathInfo must remain a true monarchy, under MY control, under MY sole moderation. I am not going to cede control to a "good Catholic" like Mark79, a clique or group, or anyone else, only to take a new, lower position as president of a committee, or figurehead monarch. Mark wants to become Parliament, and relegate me to the figurehead position of the English monarchy. Sorry, but no thanks.