Asking permission to do something is not the same as doing the act.
You both made an agreement to marry at some point but you both, evidently, decided not to go through with the agreement. Hopefully, you have confessed your sins with this girl and you can now continue your life. You are not married.
When I read the title of this topic I thought of something completely different. I was married in the Novus Ordo. When I had been married just shy of two years, we moved to Indiana. The prior archbishop had recently died and there was no replacement yet named. After a few months, a new archbishop was named and, upon taking the reigns of the archdiocese, began writing a column in the archdiocesan newspaper. Of course, with all the moral rot in society, one of the first topics he felt compelled to write about was the annulment process. :confused1:
The point of his article was to explain and defend how an "apparent marriage" could last many years, produce many children, and yet, have never been a valid "sacramental marriage". He discussed how people who really have no understanding of what marriage entails, did not really know what the commitment would truly require, may have been too emotionally immature at the time of the marriage to truly be married even though they had "appeared" to be married for 25 or 30 years and had adult children and even grandchildren.
This article truly scandalized me. I was in shock. Was I truly married? Did I receive the sanctifying grace of the sacrament? Was I destined to discover years from now that we were never truly married? I wrote to the archbishop.
I received a reply (sadly, I do not have a copy of my original letter or his reply anymore). His reply assured me that I was validly married--even though he didn't know me from Adam. He also suggested, in a round-a-bout way that the primary proof that a marriage was never really valid was that it ends in a civil divorce. This was 1992.
It was also when my "confusion" about the Conciliar Church began. This was my beginning of my search for Catholic Truth. I seriously could not understand how an archbishop of the Catholic Church could be so shallow as to assume that we could, after years of stable marriage, suddenly discover that--Oops!--we weren't married after all! I had even asked him if priests really fully understood what they were entering into when they were ordained and wondered if they could discover that their ordinations weren't really valid because of their emotional immaturity. He didn't address this question at all.