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GiuseppeMichelePoli · « **on:** May 15, 2016, 09:59:11 PM »

What would be the greatest pieces of advice you would give to men in their early twenties? Men seem to become more mentally and emotionally developed once they get past their late twenties and enter their early thirties. What do you think are the most important things men in their early twenties should be focusing on in order to avoid making too many mistakes as they reach full development?

OHCA · « **Reply #1 on:** May 15, 2016, 10:34:16 PM »

Cling to your Rosary, the Sacraments, and the Mass.

Consider in earnest whether you have a vocation to the priesthood, religious, or married state.

Avoid alcohol (not being an heretical Puritan, but excess alcohol can ruin a person).

Avoid bars (whores, drunks, and the worldly hang out there).

Avoid people who are bad influences (whores, drunks, clean-cut staunch WASPs).

Avoid modern entertainment (music, movies, sitcoms, etc).

Find out what you're good at/enjoy for earning a livelihood (keep reality and fantasy in check).

Don't think that your twenties are a time to be a man-child--in previous generations men (respectable men rather than thug boys of today) were fathers before 20 or very early 20s. Fɾҽҽmαsσɳɾყ/Jєωry dictates a college degree (4 years filled with promiscuity & debauchery) for stocking shelves. That's not to say nobody should get a college education. If you have an aptitude for medicine, law, accounting, engineering, etc. fields that require college, then stay focused on why you're there and don't fall into the traps of substances, whores, etc.

If you are to marry, figure out how you're going to meet a good Catholic. I wouldn't rule out the possibility of converting an appropriate young lady. But it's probably not advisable to set out with that as your primary planned course to marriage.

PG · « **Reply #2 on:** May 15, 2016, 10:45:25 PM »

The yoke of the world is not sweet. Its burden is not light. Only Christ's yoke is sweet, and only his burden is light.

poche · « **Reply #3 on:** May 16, 2016, 02:22:06 AM »

Study the sayings of the Fathers of the desert.

Geremia · « **Reply #4 on:** May 16, 2016, 12:17:03 PM »

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Avoid people who are bad influences (whores, drunks, clean-cut staunch WASPs).

What about yuppies, too?

St. Thomas Aquinas was only 19 when we chased the whore with a firebrand out of the tower his brothers locked him up in. One prominent characteristic of his life, from this young age onward, was that he embraced poverty.

TheRealMcCoy · « **Reply #5 on:** May 16, 2016, 12:23:18 PM »

Alessandro Serenelli, murderer of Saint Maria Goretti:

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"I'm nearly 80 years old. I'm about to depart.
"Looking back at my past, I can see that in my early youth, I chose a bad path which led me to ruin myself.

"My behavior was influenced by print, mass-media and bad examples which are followed by the majority of young people without even thinking. And I did the same. I was not worried.

"There were a lot of generous and devoted people who surrounded me, but I paid no attention to them because a violent force blinded me and pushed me toward a wrong way of life.

"When I was 20 years-old, I committed a crime of passion. Now, that memory represents something horrible for me. Maria Goretti, now a Saint, was my good Angel, sent to me through Providence to guide and save me. I still have impressed upon my heart her words of rebuke and of pardon. She prayed for me, she interceded for her murderer. Thirty years of prison followed.

"If I had been of age, I would have spent all my life in prison. I accepted to be condemned because it was my own fault.

"Little Maria was really my light, my protectress; with her help, I behaved well during the 27 years of prison and tried to live honestly when I was again accepted among the members of society. The Brothers of St. Francis, Capuchins from Marche, welcomed me with angelic charity into their monastery as a brother, not as a servant. I've been living with their community for 24 years, and now I am serenely waiting to witness the vision of God, to hug my loved ones again, and to be next to my Guardian Angel and her dear mother, Assunta.

"I hope this letter that I wrote can teach others the happy lesson of avoiding evil and of always following the right path, like little children. I feel that religion with its precepts is not something we can live without, but rather it is the real comfort, the real strength in life and the only safe way in every circuмstance, even the most painful ones of life."

Signature, Alessandro Serenelli

Matthew · « **Reply #6 on:** May 16, 2016, 12:43:46 PM »

Quote from: TheRealMcCoy

Alessandro Serenelli, murderer of Saint Maria Goretti:
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"I'm nearly 80 years old. I'm about to depart.
"Looking back at my past, I can see that in my early youth, I chose a bad path which led me to ruin myself.

"My behavior was influenced by print, mass-media and bad examples which are followed by the majority of young people without even thinking. And I did the same. I was not worried.

"There were a lot of generous and devoted people who surrounded me, but I paid no attention to them because a violent force blinded me and pushed me toward a wrong way of life.

"When I was 20 years-old, I committed a crime of passion. Now, that memory represents something horrible for me. Maria Goretti, now a Saint, was my good Angel, sent to me through Providence to guide and save me. I still have impressed upon my heart her words of rebuke and of pardon. She prayed for me, she interceded for her murderer. Thirty years of prison followed.

"If I had been of age, I would have spent all my life in prison. I accepted to be condemned because it was my own fault.

"Little Maria was really my light, my protectress; with her help, I behaved well during the 27 years of prison and tried to live honestly when I was again accepted among the members of society. The Brothers of St. Francis, Capuchins from Marche, welcomed me with angelic charity into their monastery as a brother, not as a servant. I've been living with their community for 24 years, and now I am serenely waiting to witness the vision of God, to hug my loved ones again, and to be next to my Guardian Angel and her dear mother, Assunta.

"I hope this letter that I wrote can teach others the happy lesson of avoiding evil and of always following the right path, like little children. I feel that religion with its precepts is not something we can live without, but rather it is the real comfort, the real strength in life and the only safe way in every circuмstance, even the most painful ones of life."

Signature, Alessandro Serenelli

A wise man will take this as Gospel truth and learn from it.

It's hard to deny facts and things that actually happened. This is the life wisdom of a man who has BEEN THERE and DONE THAT.

Ignore his advice only if you are a fool.

Matthew · « **Reply #7 on:** May 16, 2016, 12:49:38 PM »

My advice?

Develop discipline. The lay life is not for the undisciplined, any more than the religious or priestly life.

Learn your Faith, love your Faith, LIVE your Faith, and learn how to serve Mass. Serving Mass is not just for those on their way to the priesthood (or those who were seminarians in their youth).

And seriously consider a vocation. At least visit a seminary/monastery and give God the first shot at your life.

Don't say, "I am attracted to women, so I know I'm meant to be married." Uh, yeah...and all priests and religious are ɧoɱosɛҳųαƖs? Try again, bubba!

Any good priest is going to have plenty of testosterone. That's what makes a good man. But these good priests are also going to have tons of self-discipline, such that denial of self becomes a habit (virtue) and second nature.

Priests are not ɧoɱosɛҳųαƖs or girly-men who have no male drive. If I were a priest, I'd be extremely offended at that suggestion! I guess I'm offended at that suggestion because I was a seminarian once. And I looked around me and did NOT see a bunch of limp-wristed homos. (I was there before +Williamson left as rector...I don't know what it's like there today!)

TheRealMcCoy · « **Reply #8 on:** May 16, 2016, 01:08:31 PM »

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Priests are not ɧoɱosɛҳųαƖs or girly-men who have no male drive. If I were a priest, I'd be extremely offended at that suggestion! I guess I'm offended at that suggestion because I was a seminarian once. And I looked around me and did NOT see a bunch of limp-wristed homos. (I was there before +Williamson left as rector...I don't know what it's like there today!)

I'm reminded of a time I saw some of the Benedictine monks from Silver City. Imagine rugby players in habits. :boxer:

Cantarella · « **Reply #9 on:** May 16, 2016, 04:04:51 PM »

This, for one thing:

The syndrome of the man - child, that boy who never grows into real manhood, (another result of feminist non sense, by the way) must be completely eradicated. The man caves nowadays are usually filled with infantile detritus, not to mention other revolting and sinful entertainments.

Cantarella · « **Reply #10 on:** May 16, 2016, 04:15:16 PM »

This is a good article on that subject:

Are You a Manchild of Pop Culture?

http://maccabeesociety.com/are-you-a-manchild-of-pop-culture/

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What Is A Manchild?

A manchild is a grown male (average height of 5’10-6’0 ft, usually bearded, tertiary student or employed, has a license to drive and drink) that acts like a small kid, unable and unwilling to take responsibility for his own cultivation of virtue. When it comes to religion, politics, and finance, the manchild twiddles his thumbs and gets bored by such talk, but when he sees the bright colours of his favourite cartoon hero, he gets really, really excited and jumps for joy. And while he can’t speak properly in a group of people or towards women, he certainly can unleash all sorts of hell on Facebook, Twitter, Youtube, and other forums on the internet.

AMDGJMJ · « **Reply #11 on:** May 16, 2016, 09:09:48 PM »

Quote from: GiuseppeMichelePoli

What would be the greatest pieces of advice you would give to men in their early twenties? Men seem to become more mentally and emotionally developed once they get past their late twenties and enter their early thirties. What do you think are the most important things men in their early twenties should be focusing on in order to avoid making too many mistakes as they reach full development?

Avoid bad companions for the young are more easily swayed.

Have good solid Catholic friends to help support you in the Faith.

Try to live a good and virtuous life.

Pray the daily rosary, and do spiritual reading every day or at least when you have time.

Receive Holy Communion as often as possible, and go to Confession at least once a month.

Try to be strong and learn manly tasks like wood chopping, fixing one's house, keeping a good budget, etc.

Learn to conquer your will, and you shall be able to conquer every difficulty in your life through the help of God!

Hope this helps!

God bless! :-)