I'll shed some insight here. First of all, regarding the father's commands becoming null when wrong (happy Father's Day, by the way). Take it from a guy like me who had to dis-obey alot of the commands from his Protestant father. It is true that the father is the head of the household, and as my parish priest said today it is up to them to handle to finances, decide where the family goes to Church, etc. However, that being said, when your father tells you to attend a service created by Freemasons, his command becomes null. It's not a sin to dis-obey your parents if they tell you something you KNOW is wrong. So when my Protestant dad tried to get me to go to church with him, I had two options. Either obey him and go, or say "Heck no, I'm Catholic and will not go to a Protestant service!". I think you can guess which option I chose.
As far as the Novus Ordo fulfilling one's Sunday Obligation, that depends. Those who don't know the NO is wrong and don't know the history of Vatican II (like how it was infiltrated by Freemasons) are still meeting their Sunday Obligation by attending as long as they have every intention of pleasing God. On the other hand, those who know the NO is wrong but continue to go without care are not meeting their Sunday Obligation because they clearly don't care about pleasing God, they only care about doing what is most conveniant or satisfying for them. So my advice is not to go to the NO no matter how much your parents try to convince you of going. I hope this helps you.
Have a Blessed Sunday and God Bless.