Hello, my name is Manny, I go to a catholic high school as a senior. There is this girl I've known for the 3 years that I've been attending the catholic school that I have become very attracted to. It's not that that fake love that most teenagers get, but what real love is. I want to will the good for her, but she won't let me, she knows I like her, but she says she doesn't want to be in a relationship, which basically means she doesn't like me. I don't want to have a friendship of use or pleasure, but a virtuous friendship, but I don't even think she'll allow me that. I could really use someone's input, but like I said I do feel like I truly love this girl. Thank you and God bless!
Life is often a struggle...
There was a man who once asked me out, but soon made up his mind that we would not be a good couple, and wanted us to just have a good friendship. However, the tough thing is that friendships between men and women when one or the other once had a serious attachment are very difficult. I tried to remain as a friend to him for awhile, but eventually had to cut the bridge because it was too emotionally straining.
Be grateful that the girl does not give you false encouragement. Sometimes I wish that the man had done to me what she did for you. It is tough, but the best way to get over someone is by saying goodbye "cold turkey" but still being polite if you happen to see them in public.
I know that it might sound harsh, but you are young, and there are surely many other good Catholic girls who would love to have a solid Catholic man to be their spouse. So, work on setting yourself up for life and growing into the virtuous man that any girl would feel blessed to have as a spouse. Get a house, a solid job, and then continue your search for a good wife.
I shall offer some prayers for you...
Finally here is one last thing that has helped me a lot, hopefully it will help you also! :-)
TRUE LOVE IS ONLY FOUND IN AND THROUGH GOD
Treatise attributed to Saint Anthony
Everyone longs to give himself completely to someone –
To have a deep soul relationship with another.
To be loved thoroughly and exclusively.
But God, to the Christian, says,
“No, not until you are satisfied with living for Me
And have an intensely personal and unique relationship
With me alone.
I love you, My child,
And until you discover that only in Me is your satisfaction,
You will not be capable of the perfect human relationship
That I have planned for you.
I want you to stop planning and stop wanting,
And allow Me to give you the most thrilling plan ever existing –
One that you cannot even imagine.
I want you to have the best.
Please allow me to bring it to you –
Just keep watching Me,
Expecting the greatest things –
Keep experiencing that satisfaction in Me,
Knowing that I Am –
Keep learning from and listening to the things that I tell you.
You must wait.
Don’t be anxious.
Don’t look around at the things others have gained for themselves
Or that I have given them.
Don’t look at the things you want.
Just keep looking to Me
Or you will miss what I want to show you.
When you are ready,
I will surprise you with a love far more wonderful
Than any you would ever dream of.
You see, until you are ready,
(And even now I desire to have you both ready at the same time)
Until you are both satisfied with Me
You won’t be able to experience
The love that exemplifies your relationship with Me –
And thus is perfect love.
And, dear one,
I want you to have this most wonderful love
I want you to have in the flesh
A picture of your relationship with Me
And to enjoy the everlasting union of beauty and love.
I am God.
Believe and be satisfied.”