Author Topic: What is passive aggression from whence does it proceed? (Read 87 times)

SkidRowCatholic · « **on:** **Today** at 11:33:03 AM »

Where does this disgusting vice proceed from - is it simply pride? Or is it effeminacy (so common during these times)?

Sarcasm

"Passive-aggressive individuals may use sarcasm to express negative feelings indirectly.
This allows them to make hurtful comments while maintaining plausible deniability by claiming “It was just a joke” if confronted.
Sarcasm becomes passive-aggressive when used to convey criticism or resentment without directly addressing the underlying issue.

Similarly, ignoring a question or simply never replying to a message. All in all, silence when a response is warranted is often considered passive aggression.

Evading issues

People who evade issues avoid addressing problems directly, often pretending everything is fine when it’s not.
This behavior stems from a reluctance to deal with emotions or confront difficult situations head-on. Instead of openly discussing concerns, they may deflect or minimize issues.

Withholding

Withholding includes holding back on privileges that would otherwise be normal as a way to punish another person.

Patronizing language

Using unnecessarily simple language or condescending tones to undermine someone’s intelligence or competence.

This passive-aggressive behavior allows the speaker to assert superiority while maintaining a facade of helpfulness.

Exclusion
Using exclusion and isolating others can also be used as a way to show annoyance or hurt indirectly.

Social exclusion can involve having a party and inviting everyone except the targeted person.
Professional exclusion can include leaving someone out of a meeting or out of the loop on a deadline change.

Ghosting
Suddenly cutting off communication without explanation, often used to avoid confrontation or express dissatisfaction indirectly.
This passive-aggressive behavior allows individuals to end relationships or express anger without having to face the other person’s reactions.

Why do people act passive-aggressive?
There are many reasons why someone may be passive-aggressive, including the following:
Early life experiences
Many people may be passive-aggressive due to their upbringing, especially their relationships with their parents.
They may have learned from a young age that their wants, needs, or preferences didn’t matter. If they tried to be honest with their parents, they might have been criticized, rejected, or put down.

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Even as adults, the thought of trying to be direct with people may fill people with anxiety, so they have learned to get their needs met through passive-aggressive methods.

It may be that their parents were also very passive-aggressive, so the child then goes on to mirror these behaviors as they can come to believe that this is the only way to deal with their negative emotions.
Emotional dysregulation
For many reasons, someone may use passive-aggression as they struggle to regulate their emotions.

This could be due to feeling stressed or having extreme nerves but also from having depression, anxiety, or attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD).
https://www.simplypsychology.org/passive-aggressive-behavior.html

I am more interested in the why - someone chooses this route versus - just confronting whatever they perceive is a problem head on with an unemotional/rational response....

Do you agree with these points Matthew?

You said back when I started here that you were NOT passive aggressive and that you were a man who is direct. But now I ask you for a simple clear answer in the name of TRUTH (one way or the other) and you are just blackballing me passive aggressively it seems... You even told me I WOULD KNOW when I had "crossed a line". But I don't know what this line is that you think I have crossed or if I have even crossed one at all! If this is how one would, "would know" they had crossed a line - all I will say is that is quite lame - but it is your forum so you can run it passive aggressive or otherwise... I just want the truth of the PUBLIC information to come out as two different person's actual reputation(s) are on the line. It is right to let the truth out here - whatever it is. But, if this is really how you deal with things - you might as well just "ban" me now - as we have two diametrically opposed views on truth and justice (at least in this regard). And note well I am certainly no "Hewkonian" or member of the "true Resistance (sic)" either - and I think Fr. Hewko, the Trumpet, Greg, etc. need to let this crap go once a simple acknowledgement is made of the truth and stop using it to beat others with. BUT the truth still must be acknowledged - no fudging it one way or the other in the name of the "common good" we have all had enough of that - it is why we are in this crisis - small omissions lead to bigger sins... Let Fr. Hewko be shown to be a liar here and the rest of his complaints will collapse into nothingness. But if it is true at least we can say, "Bishop Williamson was wrong to act that way." We cannot just smear a man because he is speaking the truth about what was said - if indeed it was the truth...

Author Topic: What is passive aggression from whence does it proceed? (Read 87 times)

SkidRowCatholic

What is passive aggression from whence does it proceed?