Author Topic: Should a woman ever be the head of the relationship? (Read 1285 times)

Lazarus · « **Reply #15 on:** June 06, 2026, 02:11:35 PM »

Generally, the woman should not be the head.

There are always exceptions (because people are not clones of each other), but expecting the exception as the norm is strange and disordered.

Some men need to be ordered around like children because they are used to be ordered around by their mother and they want their wife to do the same. That is more a sign of immaturity than of a mental illness.

If he isn't able to see the problem at his level, it's pointless to try to force him. He'll need time and to realize that on his own. Men tend to mature at a slower pace than women.

jen51 · « **Reply #16 on:** June 06, 2026, 02:52:42 PM »

Maybe he is trying to convince you of that so that he doesn’t look so weak. It could be that he is scared of rejection, therefore is not willing to make the first move, to put himself on the line so to speak. If that be the case I pray he can move past that.

At any rate, I wouldn’t listen to him. It sounds like you know that. Also, the company we keep has a lot of influence on who we become. While I see no reason the friendship needs to end, I wouldn’t be real close. Maybe a “hey how are you, how’s life?” when you see each other. Our friendships need to lead us upward toward virtue.

SimpleMan · « **Reply #17 on:** June 06, 2026, 04:28:02 PM »

Quote from: Lazarus on June 06, 2026, 02:11:35 PM

Some men need to be ordered around like children because they are used to be ordered around by their mother and they want their wife to do the same. That is more a sign of immaturity than of a mental illness.

There is no nice way to put this, such men need to grow a pair.

alancarmine · « **Reply #18 on:** June 06, 2026, 04:48:10 PM »

Quote from: jen51 on June 06, 2026, 02:52:42 PM

While I see no reason the friendship needs to end, I wouldn’t be real close. Maybe a “hey how are you, how’s life?” when you see each other. Our friendships need to lead us upward toward virtue.

We'll talk about other things. He interrupted what I was saying this morning to show me this girl who's his friend who's into me. She's never seen me before, only over the internet. That's how he got offended. I need to take charge in the friendship and keep it at a goofing-on-the-world level while ignoring the irony. Maybe same for him from his weak world view.

Some people can't be shown the correct way but instead have to witness you live it. If me and anyone else aren't friends either they stole or stopped being friends with me. I'm happy to sit down with anyone. Only if they aren't clinical. No matter if I get scorned. It's a part of life.

Seraphina · « **Reply #19 on:** June 08, 2026, 12:58:54 PM »

Quote from: SimpleMan on June 06, 2026, 04:28:02 PM

There is no nice way to put this, such men need to grow a pair.

Agree. He sounds very insecure in his manhood and overall, immature. Forming a relationship with him, he’s your automatic +1, plus one child, that is. The man needs to be the leader, the commander, not the obedient subordinate, not the dictator, either. A “nithe,” emotional man doesn’t make a good husband or father. Many of the kids with whom I went to public school whose parents did the role reversal, they’re gαy or lesbian, and their parents’ marriage is no more.
Try this. Try, for a month, to submit yourself to him as to your leader. If he won’t or can’t lead, or isn’t comfortable taking the lead, he’s not marriage material, for you at least.

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