Heck, I think you could make a case that perhaps an ordinary person could figure out that the Novus Ordo is bad, especially if its sufficiently irreverent, but this the average person would never even think to ask.
Sorry for this OT.
ByzCat3000... as a newbie here and a Catholic who just opened his eyes, you have no idea how much I mirror myself in your comment!
You put your finger on the wound. "...but this the average person would never even think to ask.". The average Joe, as myself, would never even have dared to ask. A parishoner questioning his own minister on the validity of his Mass' liturgy?
I often had doubts but I could never bring myself to even imagine debating about the liturgy, let alone challenging it. It is not out of fear of the priest but out of (a) sheer, culpable, unforgivable, ignorance of our Faith and (b) obedience to the powers that be. Ignorance is the tool used by dictators to acquiesce its populus.
Already 40 years ago, Catechism was a very watered down study course that did not require proficiency to be passed. Modernism accepted the faithfuls' ignorance.
This is why I argue that, perhaps, Catholic schools are more important that Catholic Churches.
I +1 the OP, as I find myself in her very same shoes and I am assailed by doubts, every night, as I make my evening prayers... "can I receive communion from this priest or that priest?", "should I confess my horrendous (heretic) thoughts about the Holy Father's unreceivable words?", "am I leading my family astray?". etc., etc..
It is simple for the educated to feel so confident about their choices. But those of us who just opened their eyes need the educated's support, patience, understanding, love and praiers.
I am not making a case for our justification or for pity as I deserve neither: I was intellectually indolent. But my error is common, not because modernism is easier and faster, but because Catholics, in good faith, have no reason to doubt Mother Church and follow those who lead it.
So, please, condone our seemingly silly questions... this forum may be an instrument of God and those more knowledgeable may be His tool.