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Epiphany, if anyone should be handing your head in shame it is you my dear. 

Why do you persist in your calumny against a good and faithful priest? You have previously said you were a member of OLHC. If that is true:
1. You would know the truth of the situation, which you obviously do not.
2. You would have had an opportunity to help Debbie yourself.
3. Why did you not do so?

The facts:
Debbie was a layperson who did not attempt to become a nun until she was in her 60s. She told me that she had a "high-power career in New York" and "shopped only at the best department stores" and "bought only designer suits." She also had two grown sons at the time she arrived at OLHC. Why did her own family not assist her? Why did Debbie’s family reject the offer of a funeral Mass for her when it was offered to her at no cost?

Debbie  was never a member of a religious order, although she fantasized about becoming one. Over the years she would take different religious names. During the time I knew her, she told me she had found an order in France who would take a laywoman in her 60s with health issues. Six or so months later she returned (with a different sister name) and told me it did not work out. Years later she told me she had found an order in Ecuador who would take a laywoman in her 60s with even more severe health issues. She told me to write to her in invisible ink because the police were watching her. At that time I realized that she had both physical and mental health issues. Several months later she returned (with a different sister name) and again said "it didn't work out."

At a time in my life when I was seriously ill and barely able to care for myself, she wanted to move in with me and my husband who was my overburdened caregiver. I realized how out of touch with reality she was. When she persisted, I realized what an entitled perspective she had.

Over a period of time, numerous members of the chapel took her in and again and again "it did not work out." Out of Christian charity and not wanting to gossip, no one said what the problems with her were. However over the years it became known that she had severe emotional and mental problems, she was demanding, she expected to be waited on, and she caused explosive scenes in each home she was in.

At the time Debbie passed away she attended Mass at San Juan Capistrano Mission. Why are you not attacking them? Why do you persist in lying about Father Starbuck?

Father Starbuck is a charitable, humble priest with the heart of a servant. When Father Perez received complaint after complaint regarding Debbie begging before and after all Sunday Masses, he told her to stop begging. She refused to stop. She continued to beg and the  complaints about her begging continued, along with complaints about her stealing items from the chapel bookstore.

Father Perez he did what he always did (just as he did when the school board refused to vet Mr. Wiest and instructed Father Starbuck to take up the problem with the school board). He passed the problem onto dear Father Starbuck. Father Perez instructed Father Starbuck to tell Debbie to leave the chapel.

Your lie about Father Starbuck telling her she’d be arrested if she came on OLHC property is a new embellishment in your carefully crafted collage of lies. It’s obvious where you got that misrepresentation. In fact it was the SCHOOL board who wanted to grasp control of the chapel who circulated lies and calumny against Father Starbuck because he was in their way. They are the ones who told dear Father Starbuck two days before Christmas that he would not be saying any of the Christmas Masses, that he was locked out of his office, and that if he set foot on THEIR property, he would be arrested.

He offered to say her funeral Mass with no donation as he has previously done for those without funds. Her family was not interested in his kind offer.

Epiphany, for the sake of your own soul, stop the calumny against a good and faithful priest.