I received for about 3 years for the most part of what I am morally certain was an invalid host, no I did not attend the New mass. I have attended the new mass no more times then I have hands and feet in my whole life. It has been approximately 3 years since I have even gone once to that abomination, Deo gratias. I also confessed to an invalid priest for quite some time, the good thing is that in between those confessions I would still got to a SSPX priest in between. The best I can say is that you receive a Spiritual communion and the graces will be greater to those who really fervently desire Our Blessed Lord in their souls. God will not smite you down for not knowing you were receiving invalid host, even if it was for 30 years in some cases. Be grateful that at some point you found out about some of the spiritual realities during this modernist crisis.
I am not asking if you will be punished or if God will smite you for receiving the novus ordo cookie; i am clear you won't be if you didn't know any better.
The thing is, thinking logically, IF these novus ordos still get some benefits/graces by receiving the invalid cookie, then why would you ever tell them anything and jeopardize their situation? If they are receiving the same graces they would receive as if they really received the Blessed Eucharist, then why will you tell them anything since, if they convert, they will no longer go there and will be worse off without any graces?
It's similar to when i wonder if any of those clueless novus ordos can be saved in their blissful ignorance: if they can, then there would be no point in telling them what's going on at all and this is all a matter of preference only, that is, that of being traditionalist, novus ordo, sede etc.
You may know they are dead wrong and deceived, but if they can still be saved in that state, then why bother telling them anything at all? To each his own?
Do you know of Catholics saying such things? Clearly if someone is happy with their parish, regardless of what anyone personally thinks of it, the subject's just not going to come up.
It comes up when, uh, THEY (NOs) bring it up. They know you're Catholic and don't attend their parish, and often leave you alone, but when something questionable happens in their parish, they're usually the ones who
ask us, right? Or they walk into an independent parish or SSPX chapel and they watch, then later might come back, and finally, again,
ask us. (Unless it's family.) So if someone comes and
asks, "Why is Fr. NOMasser never speaking about Hell anymore, and speaks only of 'gαy rights'?" we might answer that question, but I don't think we're going to launch into "your rite is invalid and you'll burn in Hell aargh!"
No; we sort of
answer questions put to us, right? Honey draws more flies and all that? We WANT people at Mass, in the pews, worshiping God.
Even then, I think it's a good idea to refer questioners to the priest. (Though we don't try to miss opportunities, and my husband will field questions if it's a good moment; lots of the men will, too, at coffee hour. But we don't want to come off like we're desperate; it's a
blessing and grace to worship at Mass. Mass speaks for itself.)
At least, I know of nobody who goes around banging NO attendees in the head with picket signs saying, "Yo, your mass is invalid!" —That simply doesn't happen. THEY bring it up.