Physician, heal thyself.
You're concerned about non-theologians condemning people willy-nilly? That's rich coming from you! 
https://www.cathinfo.com/members-only/thoughts-on-natural-family-planning/
Why don't you tell us a bit about yourself, starting with how long you've been Trad, and what Trad seminary(ies) you spent time studying at. It still wouldn't make you a theologian, but it would be better than most. It would be a start.
I tell you what traumatizes me. Trads being autistic. Blocking the truth from purer hearts through their own selfishness.
Obviously I'm not against calling things heretical, but people like Lazarus are clearly so lacking in any kind of docility, that they are clearly ill equipped to make such pronouncements.
you can tell these things from the way people write in their posts. You can tell if they are actually listening to what other people saying and taking it in, or just trying to bash around their own little opinion.
There have been plenty of times when I have learned interesting things on this forum, and even, believe it or not from Women! Like Maria especially, who actually did research on things and showed very clearly that she can change her mind.
And even, and I can't believe I am saying this, but Gray, who although still has some argumentative habits, actually adjusted her behavior considerably on certain topics and chose restraint.
Ladislaus even has his moments of listening, but usually can't resist the incoherent rants.