My comments are meant only as points of information, as I'm a registered parishioner in the Diocese of Spokane and have some familiarity with how things are done today.
"Well NO baptisms don't have a mass (sic)". This is true, there isn't a "Baptismal Mass" like there is a Nuptial Mass or a Mass of Christian Burial. Some parishes will have Baptisms at a Sunday Mass during the time between the Mass of the Catechumens and the Mass of the Faithful. You may observe that at a 1962 or earlier missal Mass after the Gospel the priest will remove his maniple and place it on the missal to indicate that there is an "interlude" between the two parts of the Mass while he makes announcements and gives his sermon, and other rites might occur. If both parties in a wedding are Catholic the exchange of vows occurs during this interlude in the post VII rites. In the situation of a mixed marriage typically there won't be a Mass, just the readings, Gospel, homily, and exchange of vows. Nuptial Masses aren't permitted after 4:00 PM on Saturdays (as that's when the Sunday obligation begins), so evening weddings won't have a Mass. One perhaps might be seated for the first part and the exchange of vows, then wait outside until the reception, not attending the "Liturgy of the Eucharist".
The fullness of the Church's funeral rites, BOTH pre and post VII, include the vigil, the Requiem Mass / Mass of Christian Burial, and the blessing of the grave and committal. The official vigil service was, in my understanding, Vespers from the Office of the Dead, which needed to be chanted in Latin by clerics in choir, an almost impossible task since shortly after the Middle Ages when the minor orders no longer existed at the parish level. In the United States it became customary to substitute a Rosary. I've read that this was a custom brought here by the Irish. So for funerals one could attend the Vigil / Rosary (usually held at the mortuary chapel, but it could be in the church) and / or attend the first half of the Mass and hang around outside until the lunch, and / or attend the committal service at the cemetery. As an aside, I don't know what is customary at a traditional chapel, but BOTH pre and post VII it was/is common for almost all parishes to provide a funeral lunch after the burial unless the family prefers not to have one. Usually a subcommittee of the Altar Society is in charge of this. Most families, if they are able, will make a donation for the lunch, but it isn't typically asked for.
Topic: NO funerals / weddings? (Read 639 times)